5 verräterische Zeichen, die er mag

soumya Ich meine, er hat die meisten Zeichen getan, außer ein Gespräch zu beginnen. Was bedeutet das? 23. Juli 2020, 00:41 Uhr Taylor Fairclough Ich habe mit diesem Typen seit 2 Monaten gesprochen und mich nicht für einen Termin getroffen (aufgrund familiärer Probleme abgesagt), aber wir Sprechen Sie jede Nacht am Telefon oder zu jeder Zeit. macht mir immer ein Kompliment. Aber er sagt immer, wir sind nur Freunde und er ist nicht bereit für eine Beziehung. In der nächsten Minute werde ich von einem Typen gefragt, der ihn respektvoll ablehnt, weil ich diesen Typen mag. Er sagte, zeig ihm ein Bild von mir und sage, ich bin dein Typ. Komplimente immer meine Figur und die Tatsache, dass ich eine Ausbildung zum Buchhalter ect. Er hat sogar am Telefon zu mir geweint und sagt, ich bin die Frau, für die er sich entscheiden sollte, weil du ihn wirklich gut lesen kannst. sogar auf die Tatsache, ihn nicht zurückzurufen, als ich spürte, dass er verärgert und verärgert war. Er sagte, Gott, ich habe endlich eine Frau gefunden, die mich versteht, mich aber nicht als Freundin will und sagt, dass niemals etwas passieren wird. Doch als mir das Getränk sagt, dass er mit mir schlafen möchte 31. März 2019, 16:09 Uhr Arie , fand meine Schwester heraus, dass mein Schwarm mich mag. aber er benimmt sich nicht wirklich so. Ich sehe ihn mich ansehen. aber er schreibt mir nie zuerst. er ignoriert mich irgendwie. Warum handelt er so? Wie kann ich herausfinden, dass er mich wirklich mag? und wie kann ich ihn dazu bringen zu zeigen, ob er dosiert oder nicht? 2. April 2018, 01:51 Uhr Marie Torp DDS Vielen Dank, dass Sie 29. Dezember 2018, 7:18 Uhr geteilt haben roxy Nun, alles begann. Ich bin vor fünf Monaten bei dem Typen und wir sind Freunde mit Vorteilen, aber ich denke, er war eine Weile in mich verknallt, weil er mich gefragt hat, hey, ich glaube, du hast Gefühle für mich und ich sagte nein und ich legte sie auf die Straße, seit es sich anfühlt, als ob ich denke, dass er mich mochte und jetzt mag ich ihn jetzt, ich habe keine Möglichkeit herauszufinden, ob er mich wirklich noch mag Er tat es, bevor ich ihn in die Freundeszone brachte und sie tatsächlich wegschob und keine Möglichkeit hatte, ihm zu sagen, wie ich mich jetzt fühle. 17. Februar 2018, 12:13 Uhr kim Wie zum Teufel soll ich wissen, ob der Typ, mit dem ich zusammen bin, mich mag oder nicht, da er mir keine Anzeichen von Zuneigung zeigt. er sagt, er mag mich wirklich sehr. Er lässt sich nicht von mir umarmen oder küssen oder sogar seine Hand halten. Er hat diese Dinge getan und mich sogar auf den Hintern geschlagen. Mir ist aufgefallen, dass er meistens damit aufgehört hat, seit ich abgenommen habe. Ich sehe keinen Sinn darin zu bleiben, er will nicht, dass ich gehe. Warum bin ich dann hier, weil ich es jetzt verdammt noch mal nicht tue? 1. Februar 2018, 11:39 Uhr Maryanne Ich weiß nicht, ob dieser Typ auf mich steht oder nur spielt, aber die Zeichen sind, wenn ich neue Freunde treffe, die er herauskommt von seinem Haus und hört zu, was ich zu sagen habe, er will wissen, mit wem ich spreche, ist er interessiert? 18. Oktober 2017, 00:44 Uhr Cookie OK, also denke ich, dass es diesen Kerl gibt, den ich mag und ich bin mir nicht sicher, ob er mich mag oder ob er mag jemand anderes, weil er sich wirklich für Beatboxen interessiert und aus bestimmten Gründen immer Beatboxen um mich herum und ich weiß nicht, ob das ein Zeichen ist oder was mir hilft, ich bin wirklich verwirrt und ich weiß nicht, was ich tun soll, weil ich es wirklich mag him.pkz hilf mir.om nur 12 und er ist 11 und ich bin so verwirrt, weil er für mich wirklich süß ist. Ich brauche wirklich Hilfe. Bitte melde dich bei mir, sobald du kannst. 4. September 2017, 11: 46 Uhr crade Das Problem, das ich habe, ist, dass dieser Typ ein Mitarbeiter ist. Ich weiß aus dem Gespräch mit ihm, dass er sehr ehrgeizig ist. Er fing an zu flirten und ich antwortete. Wir zogen uns jedoch beide nach einiger Zeit zurück. Das Problem ist, dass ich ihn sehr mag. Jetzt will ich ihn und bekomme immer wieder gemischte Signale. Der Augenkontakt ist ein- und ausgeschaltet. Er reagiert gut auf Mitteilungen, die ich initiiere, aber nicht initiiere. Er spricht nie mit mir über eine Freundin oder ähnliches. Ich habe einige Dinge gesagt, die ich aufgrund des Ego bereue, d. h. vorgeschlagen, dass ich keine Beziehung suche, weil ich eine Ablehnung von einem Kollegen gespürt habe. Ich bin mir nicht sicher, ob er mich mag oder nicht, aber ich weiß, dass ich tief in ihn verliebt bin. Um meine geistige Gesundheit zu erhalten, habe ich eine Zeit ohne Kontakt begonnen. ich bin in werk2 und es macht mich verrückt. Es muss sein, als würde man eine Sucht brechen. ziemlich schwer. Ich habe noch nie zuvor so über einen Mann gefühlt! Ich mag seine Persönlichkeit und sehe und finde ihn sehr sexuell attraktiv. Mitarbeiter zu sein machte die Verbindung schwierig, da ich auch gemischte Signale gegeben habe! Manchmal macht die Situation die Dinge nicht offensichtlich. selbst er kann nicht wissen, dass ich auch verrückt nach ihm bin! Angst vor Ablehnung und Sensibilität der Mitarbeiter können das Wasser trüben! 4. Juli 2017, 8:41 Uhr sophie Also gibt es diesen Kerl, den ich mag, und er ist ein geschmeidiger Kerl, aber er ist immer schüchtern um mich herum, ich würde ihn dabei erwischen, wie er viel starrt manchmal mit einem Lächeln im Gesicht, sogar im Club beobachtete er mich eine Weile, aber wenn ich ihn jemals schnappte, antwortete er nie. Mein Freund ist sich sicher, dass er mich mag, aber ich bin mir nicht sicher! irgendwelche Ideen? und wie könnte ich mich ihm nähern, wenn ja? bitte helfen! 27. Juni 2017, 9:30 Uhr alek Ich glaube, ich bin der einzige auf der Welt, der nicht nur nach Aussehen sucht. Persönlichkeit macht 90% einer Frau aus. Ich habe Frauen gefunden und fand sie attraktiv, aber als ich erfuhr, wie sie wirklich waren, im Grunde genommen Idioten, ging mein Interesse an ihnen völlig aus dem Fenster. respektvolle und fürsorgliche Frauen sind am attraktivsten. 22. Juni 2017, 19:09 Uhr Chloe Du bist ein netter Kerl. Ich hoffe, ich finde einen Kerl wie dich. 29. August 2017, 5:53 Uhr lili Ich bin seit 5 Monaten in einer Fernbeziehung. Mein virtueller Freund möchte mich zu mir nach Hause bringen. Meine Frage ist, ob ich vorhabe, eine Limousine zu mieten, um ihn mit Champagner abzuholen. Bitte geben Sie an, ob dies in Ordnung oder zu viel Investition ist. Wie sieht es ein Typ? danke 1. Juni 2017, 22:34 Uhr Rhiana (nicht der tatsächliche Name) Nun, ich werde nur herausfinden, ob mein Ex (nicht ob ich anrufen soll) er mag mich immer noch. Weil er mir sagte, er wähle mich aus seiner jetzigen Freundin aus und ich war mir nicht sicher, ob das wahr ist. Bevor er seinen Freunden sagte, wir würden ausgehen und dann gebeten, in den Park zu gehen, den er bekommt Wirklich zappelig, wenn er in meiner Nähe ist, obwohl ich nicht weiß, ob er versucht, mich zu benutzen. Diese Freundin benimmt sich jetzt ein wenig gemein und übermäßig beschützend, wenn ich dort bin. Meine Freunde sind süß, aber ich muss sagen, dass ich es bin Ich werde mich nicht in ihn verlieben. alte Gefühle vermischten sich mit seinem neuen Selbst. 2. Mai 2017, 18:31 Uhr milcha ummmm… also ich mag diesen Kerl, er ist mein bester Freund ex. Wir unterhielten uns ein paar Tage, bevor sie sich trennten. Im Unterricht ging er zu meinem Schreibtisch und begann mit mir zu sprechen, obwohl er keinen Platz hatte, den er nur vor mir kniete. Er würde mich zu unserer nächsten Klasse führen und mir Gesellschaft leisten. Nach einer Klasse ging ich an ihm vorbei und sagte 'Hey' oder so und traf mich mit meinen Freunden. In letzter Zeit schob er mich in die andere Richtung und ließ mich ihn zu seiner nächsten Klasse führen, obwohl ich sagte, ich müsse mich mit Leuten treffen. idk was zu denken. Anscheinend hat er ein „Ding“ mit einem anderen Mädchen… 1. Mai 2017, 16:25 Uhr Amy Ich mag diesen Kerl und ich denke, er mag mich. Wir haben nie wirklich viel geredet, aber ich denke, er starrte mich immer an, wenn ich in der Nähe war, und wenn ich ihn ansah, ließ er unsere Augen einfach nicht aufeinander treffen. Wenn wir mit unseren Freunden zusammen sind, hört er zu, was ich rede, nimmt aber selten an der Unterhaltung teil, bis er etwas gefragt wird. Ich weiß nicht, ob er mich mag. Bitte sag mir, was ich tun soll. 7. April 2017, 23:17 Uhr alessia Ich mag diesen Jungen seit 2 Jahren. Er hat in den letzten Jahren nie mit mir über irgendetwas gesprochen. Aber dieses Jahr ist das nicht so. Anfang dieses Jahres sprach er mit mir über Hausaufgaben und alles. Jetzt ist er ein bisschen offen und macht schmutzige Witze. doch er!!! flirtet !!! mit!!!! jeder!!!!! und obendrein merkt er nicht einmal, dass er tatsächlich flirtet. -_- im januar und februar hat er mich 'zufällig' idk zufällig oder 'zufällig' berührt und wir unterhalten uns irgendwie über biografien auf instagram. ik es ist komisch ... ich habe meine Biografie aktualisiert und gesagt, ich kann Spanisch, weil sein Biio auf Spanisch ist. (keiner von uns spricht tatsächlich Spanisch…) und jetzt sind seine Bildunterschriften auch auf Spanisch. idk es ist nur ein Zufall oder ...: / Ich sehne mich wirklich nach Rat, bitte hilf mir jemand. y_y bitte… 27. März 2017, 13:30 Uhr kadence Also handelt dieser Typ immer gemein um mich und meine Freunde und wenn er mir eine SMS schreibt, handelt er alle nett und nett Sachen. was bedeutet das? 13. März 2017, 22:59 Uhr alessia Er ist entweder ein Spieler oder möchte vielleicht nur mit Ihnen und nicht mit Ihren Freunden zusammen sein. oder ist vielleicht schüchtern, weil es öffentlich ist! idk tho 27. März 2017, 13:32 Uhr carla Vielleicht versucht er Sie zu beeindrucken, weil Männer diese Gefühle auf andere Weise ausdrücken. aber er könnte total in dir sein! 17. Mai 2017, 17:02 Uhr _themenace Ja, Emily Gourdin Bischoff, ich liebe dich: * 30. Dezember 2016, 10:21 Uhr becca mein Freund Ex ist meine Freundin und sie liebt ihn wirklich und sie weiß nicht, was zwischen uns los ist, was ich tun soll 28. Dezember 2016, 10:46 Uhr matthew nur eine Sache, die ich sagen möchte, auch wenn ein Kerl dich nicht mag, fühle dich nie dumm, die Situation falsch zu verstehen. Ich hatte Mädchen, die mich mochten und das Gefühl war gegenseitig und andere, die mich mochten, aber ich erwiderte das Gefühl nicht und als sie herausfanden, fühlten sie sich verlegen. aber es ist nicht so, als hätte ich auf sie herabgesehen, weil sie das getan haben, was Menschen tun. wenn überhaupt, fühlte ich mich irgendwie geschmeichelt. Wenn ein Mann weniger an dich denkt, weil du ihn mochtest, während er es nicht tat, dann weil er unreif und dumm ist und dies von einem Mann kommt, mir. denke immer daran! 5. Dezember 2016, 8:11 Uhr sho Ich möchte etwas über Nummer 4 hinzufügen, das sich um dich herum anders verhält - insbesondere in Bezug auf die Jungs, die sind kontaktfreudig, freundlich usw. Mein letzter Schwarm ist so - freundlich, locker, geschmeidig, jeder mag ihn. du würdest denken, dass er auch bei mir so war und so war es schwer zu sagen ... - nein! Die Sache mit solchen Jungs ist, dass sie zwar mit jedem glatt sind, aber nicht mit dir! Ich habe nicht einmal bemerkt, dass er nicht so gut mit mir ist, bis wir ein anderes Mädchen in einer Bar getroffen haben und er anfing mit ihr zu reden. er war ganz und gar nicht in sie verliebt, aber er war super freundlich, gesprächig, sie tauschen nach ein paar Minuten fast Nummern aus. das war der größte Tell! bei mir war er alle beschützt, ein bisschen nervös, schüchtern ... also, das ist der Hinweis, nach dem man bei diesen glatten suchen sollte. 5. Dezember 2016, 00:13 kate letztes Schuljahr gab es diesen Typen, der mich offensichtlich mochte. Da ich ein geringes Selbstwertgefühl habe, sagte ich mir, dass er mich wahrscheinlich nicht mochte und es schien nur so, als ob er es tat, weil es zu schön wäre, um wahr zu sein. Ich mochte ihn zurück, aber ich versuchte es nicht, weil ich dachte, ich würde nur mit gebrochenem Herzen enden. Während des Sommers, als ich ihn sah, war es sehr offensichtlich, dass er mich mochte, also fing ich an, ihn noch mehr zu mögen. Als das neue Schuljahr begann und ich versuchte ihm zu zeigen, dass ich ihn mochte, schien es, als hätte er das Interesse verloren. manchmal scheint es, als könnte er mich immer noch mögen, aber manchmal bin ich mir nicht so sicher. Ich dachte, dass er vielleicht eingeschüchtert wurde, weil ich ihm nie wirklich Interesse gezeigt habe, aber ich möchte wirklich nicht, dass das passiert, weil ich ihn wirklich sehr mag! 3. Dezember 2016, 11:34 Uhr zoe Okay, also ... ich habe zwei Freunde. Ich mag einen von ihnen, aber ich weiß nicht, ob er mich wieder mag, und ich denke, der andere mag mich. Zum Beispiel ist der, den ich mag, immer sehr zappelig und gestresst, und wenn ich mit ihm spreche, wird es immer unangenehm. Ich habe ihn eine Weile gemocht, aber ich frage mich, ob er seinen Funken verloren hat, weißt du? Der andere (der, von dem ich denke, dass er mich mag) ist buchstäblich das genaue Gegenteil. Ich kann mit ihm über alles reden und ich weiß, dass ich ihm sehr persönliche Sachen anvertrauen kann. Er scheint wirklich interessiert zu sein und ich denke, eine Beziehung mit ihm zu haben wäre wunderbar. Er ist engagiert, süß und entspannt. Aber der erste Mann hat mir auch schon vorher gesagt, dass er eine Beziehung mit mir für „aufregend“ hält. es machte mich ein wenig unbehaglich, ehrlich. Er ist süß und nett, aber es ist nur um ihn herum unangenehm! Ich möchte ihn in keiner Weise verletzen, aber ich weiß nicht, ob ich mich tatsächlich für ihn engagieren soll (den ersten). kann mir jemand helfen? ich bin so verwirrt! 3. November 2016, 19:25 Uhr Loriane Entscheide dich für den, der du selbst bei ihm sein kannst. es fühlt sich schön und natürlich an und du fragst dich nicht. du weißt nur, dass du mit ihm zusammen sein willst. 25. März 2017, 22:46 Uhr cn siehe ... jetzt bin ich verwirrter, weil er halb ja und halb nicht so ist, als ob er mich mag, aber eine Wand ... meh . ️ 23. September 2016, 6:18 Uhr tara OK, seit ich vor fast vier Jahren in meine Gegend gezogen bin, bin ich diesem Typen begegnet. Ich muss an seinem Haus vorbei gehen, um zum Strand zu gehen, und er surft, damit er auch immer am Strand ist. manchmal traf ich ihn so oft, dass es unangenehm war. Ich habe nie versucht, mit ihm zu sprechen und habe Augenkontakt immer vermieden. Er hat ein paar Mal versucht, Hallo zu sagen und hat einmal versucht, mit mir zu sprechen, aber ich habe ihn irgendwie umgehauen. Ich interessierte mich nicht für irgendeinen Kerl und mein Selbstvertrauen war zu diesem Zeitpunkt etwas gering ... Ich fühlte nichts mit ihm, sondern fühlte eine Art 'Stimmung' von ihm. Ich wusste nicht, wie ich es interpretieren sollte. sowieso ... ich bin in ein anderes Gebiet gezogen und habe ihn ungefähr ein Jahr lang nicht gesehen ... und eines Tages mit meinem Hund spazieren gegangen und ich sehe ihn dort aus dem Augenwinkel stehen und mich anstarren, er war mit seinem Hund ... als würde er warten Ich sollte rüberkommen ... also tat ich es und er begann ein Gespräch mit mir, gab aber nie zu, dass er sich an mich erinnerte ... was für mich unangenehm war ... er sprach über seinen Hund und ging ein bisschen weiter, dann fragte er, was ich am Wochenende mache, dann fragte er, woher ich komme und ich sagte ihm, ich erinnere mich an ihn aus der alten Gegend, aber jetzt lebe ich unten die Straße und er schien schockiert. Er versuchte mir Fragen zu stellen, aber ich gab ihm nicht viel zum Arbeiten, weil ich nicht wusste, ob er flirtete oder freundlich war. Er versuchte, das Gespräch länger zu führen, als es hätte sein sollen, und sagte am Ende: „In Ordnung Ich könnte dich irgendwann sehen 'und aus irgendeinem Grund, nachdem er diese Chemie verlassen hatte, kam sie einfach über mich und ich fühlte mich wie ein Amor, der mich mit seinem verdammten Pfeil schlug… und ich war so verschlossen! stehen offish…. Ich habe ihm nichts zum Arbeiten gegeben, ich war zu verwirrt und jetzt konnte ich nicht aufhören, an ihn zu denken und wie ich ihn vielleicht nie wieder sehen würde. Hört sich das so an, als würde er mich wirklich mögen oder habe ich es weit überanalysiert? was mache ich? Ich war seit zehn Jahren nicht mehr verknallt und der, bei dem ich großartig war, war genau richtig. 15. September 2016, 4:03 Uhr vassi Hey, also bin ich in diesen Typen verknallt. Wir haben nur einmal in einem Jahr des Wissens gesprochen (nur damit Sie wissen, dass es eines der besten war, das ich je hatte, viel Augenkontakt). gestern war ich damit beschäftigt in der bibliothek zu lesen und ich habe ihn gehört. Er war mit einem Freund im selben Gang, ich war verblüfft und er sah total ruhig aus. dann macht er einen Witz und ich glaube, er starrte mich an, also lächelte ich und sah ihn an. Er schaute weg und sagte seinem Freund, er solle es schnell machen. und ging dann schnell. Sollte ich Hoffnung haben oder versuchen, mich darauf zu konzentrieren, weiterzumachen? 10. September 2016, 10:22 Uhr alessia Wenn Sie immer noch an ihn denken, ja. nähere dich ihm. nur wenn du noch an ihn denkst. <3 (das ist etwas anderes) Idk, was in deinem Leben vor sich geht, aber versuche immer, in allem Glück zu finden! (Ich bin nur in der Stimmung, so und so zu reden, um den Tag von jemandem heller zu machen.) Denken Sie daran, dass da draußen jemand ist, der Sie wirklich liebt. Vielleicht hast du ihn jetzt gefunden. Vielleicht ist die, mit der Sie sich gerade treffen, nicht die, die Sie tatsächlich verdienen. Vielleicht finden Sie in Zukunft den richtigen Mann. Vielleicht ist er vor dir und du hast es nicht bemerkt. egal was passiert, wir werden dich immer lieben und du gehst Mädchen! du bist unglaublich! 27. März 2017, 13:41 Uhr Madison Ich bin mit diesem Typen zusammen, aber ich glaube, er mag mich nicht mehr und er bemüht sich nicht zu sehen, rede oder schau mich an und er macht kleine Gesten, aber dann hört er einfach ganz auf und jedes Mal, wenn er die Gesten macht, geben sie mir Hoffnung ... * bam * Ich habe keine Hoffnung mehr und frage mich, ob ich brechen soll bis mit ihm ……… ..bitte helfen Sie !!!!!!!. ja oder Nein???? 29. Juni 2016, 23:10 Uhr Joshu Es gibt dieses süße Mädchen in meiner Klasse und im Grunde mag ich sie wirklich und sie ist die Art, die sehr zurückhaltend scheint und nicht mag Ich öffne mich nicht, also habe ich offensichtlich kein Singen von ihr erwartet, aber eines Tages überraschte sie mich wirklich, indem sie mich bat, sie auf Snapchat hinzuzufügen, aber aufgrund einer Krise konnte ich es nicht und am nächsten Tag ignorierte sie mich völlig und sie fing an Als ich danach seltsam handelte, erzählte ich ihr, wie ich versucht habe, sie hinzuzufügen, aber dies nicht tat, und bat sie, mich hinzuzufügen, und sie sagte, sie würde es tun, aber sie hat mich nicht hinzugefügt, und die Sache ist, dass sie normalerweise tut, was ich tue Sie spiegelt manchmal meine Bewegung wider. Wenn ich also anfange, mit einem Bleistift zu spielen, macht sie dasselbe und sie erinnert sich, wie ich vor Wochen gesagt habe. Glaubst du, sie mag mich überhaupt und wenn ja, warum spielt sie jetzt ein paar Tage lang? 3. Juni 2016, 21:02 Uhr sam Wenn sie wirklich eine schüchterne und zurückhaltende Person ist, muss sie viel Mut gehabt haben Ich möchte Ihnen sagen, dass Sie sie auf Snapchat hinzufügen sollen. technische Probleme oder nicht, sie muss gesehen haben, dass Sie sie nicht als Zeichen des Desinteresses hinzugefügt haben. Die Sache ist, dass schüchterne Leute sehr schnell entmutigt werden (ich weiß, weil ich eine schüchterne Person bin). Derzeit ist es am besten, hartnäckig zu bleiben und nicht so einfach aufzugeben. Wenn sie dich wirklich mag, wird sie sich früher oder später öffnen oder sonst Pech haben. Alles Gute Kumpel 5. Juni 2016, 2:10 Uhr Madison Joshua, wenn du sie magst, wenn du ihr sagen willst, dass du sie vielleicht eines Tages beiseite ziehen oder sagen sollst 'Hey, kann ich mit dir reden?', Wenn sie sagt 'Ich mag dich auch' oder 'Du tust es?' Dann bist du in der Glücksgrube. auch nur damit du weißt, ob sie studiert oder errötet oder wegläuft oder vielleicht sogar nur da steht und überrascht ist, tu nichts, um deine Chance zu nutzen !! Ich erröte manchmal und laufe weg, weil ich mir denke 'Hat er das wirklich gerade gesagt?'. Wenn du sie also großartig magst, aber blase sie einfach nicht ... und vielleicht könntest du sie fragen, weißt du! Nun, viel Glück, Joshua, und vielleicht sehe ich dich eines Tages! :) 1. Juli 2016, 01:31 Uhr jeanie Bitte raten Sie mal! Ich mag einen bestimmten Kerl wirklich, aber ich bin ratlos. In der Öffentlichkeit macht er das „männliche Spreizen“, dreht seinen ganzen Körper nur zu mir, macht Witze zu mir und macht Augenkontakt - Tonnen. Wenn wir alleine sind, sieht er mich kaum an, murmelt und starrt auf den Boden. Bedeutet das, dass er mich nicht 'auf diese Weise' mag, weil er intime Einstellungen vermeidet oder dass er mich mag, aber Angst vor intimen Einstellungen hat? Ich bin so glücklich, ihn als Freunde oder mehr zu 'kennen', ich möchte die Beziehung nicht betonen. nur dankbar, dass er in meinem Leben ist. aber wenn er interessiert ist, bin ich es bestimmt auch! Keine Ahnung, wie er seine polaren Reaktionen interpretieren soll ……. Wir sind beide mittleren Alters und geschieden. 2. Mai 2016, 20:05 Uhr andrea Ich bemerkte einen Mann, der mich von weitem ansah, aber ich ignorierte ihn. Aber im zweiten Semester bemerkte ich, dass er mich öfter ansah und ich begann mich zu interessieren, aber dann fand ich heraus, dass er eine Freundin hatte und sie seit mehr als einem Jahr ausgehen. Das hat mich verwirrt, weil er mich während des Unterrichts immer ansieht. Ich fand heraus, dass er ziemlich schlau war und ich interessierte mich mehr für ihn, aber als ich herausfand, dass er eine Freundin hatte, zog ich mich zurück. Normalerweise sieht er mich an, macht es aber nicht offensichtlich, aber manchmal ist es so. Er positioniert sich manchmal zu mir, obwohl wir nicht in derselben Gruppe in einer Klasse sind und er sieht mich oft an. Ich weiß, wer seine Freundin ist und ich sehe sie, aber wir haben nie ein Gespräch entwickelt und obwohl ich versucht habe, mich von ihm fernzuhalten, seit ich anfing, mich für ihn zu interessieren, kommen wir uns normalerweise wegen des Unterrichts näher. Einmal strich er sich versehentlich in meinen Arm. Ich fing an, einige Gefühle zu entwickeln, obwohl ich es nicht wollte und ich habe versucht, ihn zu ignorieren, aber es wird schwieriger und ich weiß nicht, was ich tun soll, weil ich ihre Beziehung nicht brechen möchte. er sieht ihn immer noch an und wenn er mit mir spricht, vermeidet er manchmal Augenkontakt. und ich bin verwirrt von seinen Handlungen und ich bin mir nicht sicher, ob er mich mag oder was er versucht zu tun, da er eine Freundin hat. 17. April 2016, 16:03 Uhr Amy Da ist dieser Typ, in den ich verknallt sein könnte, und er hat ein Mädchen besucht, das in einem Krankenhaus ist, und er hat sich entschuldigt, dass er es nicht war Als er auf meine Texte antwortete und er sagte, ich werde ehrlich sein, dass ich sie nicht mehr gut mag, aber seine Handlungen in letzter Zeit sagen etwas anderes, er hatte nur solche Angst, was mit ihr passiert ist, dass ich ihn nicht gebeten habe, mir diese Informationen zu erklären, sondern meinen Freund Sagen wir, es ist seine Art, sich mir zu öffnen und ehrlich zu sein. Idk, was ihr denkt? 12. April 2016, 23:01 Uhr andrea Mädchen, ich verstehe dich. Das gleiche ist mir vor einem Jahr passiert. Ich konnte den Schmerz nicht ertragen, also sagte ich es ihm und wir kamen zusammen, aber dann sah ich, dass er sich überhaupt nicht um mich kümmerte und das war alles. Ich hasste ihn für eine lange Zeit, aber nach 4 Monaten des Weinens hörte es auf. und jetzt geht es mir gut Alles was ich tun musste war alle meine Gefühle loszulassen. Das Leben geht weiter. Es hört nicht bei einem Jungen auf. Ich möchte sagen, dass Sie ihm sagen sollten, was Sie wirklich fühlen, wenn er sich nicht bewegt. Sie können nicht einfach dort bleiben und zusehen, wie er Sie ignoriert, weil Sie mehr leiden werden . ihr zwei solltet wirklich darüber reden. Vielleicht ist er schüchtern oder weiß nicht, was er fühlt. Deshalb hat er noch nicht mit Ihnen gesprochen. Viel Glück! Liebe ist Schmerz, aber Schmerz ist Leben. Es ist nicht immer so, wie wir es wollen. :) 30. Dezember 2015, 16:17 Uhr andrea hi! Ich bin ein Neuling und er ist ein Senior (wir sind in derselben Schule). Wir haben uns zum ersten Mal getroffen, als er mir in einem Schulfach half, in dem er sich auszeichnet. Wir haben viel geredet, nachdem wir unsere Arbeit erledigt hatten, und er hat mir wirklich Anzeichen dafür gezeigt, dass er mich mag. Er erzählte mir von all den Beziehungen, die er zu Mädchen hatte, und er gab mir Ratschläge über mein zukünftiges Highschool-Leben. Am Ende tauschten wir Telefonnummern aus und er sagte, ich könnte ihn anrufen, wann immer ich ihn brauche, um mir bei etwas zu helfen, oder ich hätte das Gefühl, ich möchte mit ihm sprechen. eine Woche später trafen wir uns immer wieder, um zusammenzuarbeiten. Er umarmte mich unschuldig, um mir zu zeigen, wie er einmal ein Mädchen auf einer Party umarmte und mir permanent in die Augen sah. Im Moment bin ich derjenige, der immer ein Gespräch initiiert oder anruft, um sich zu treffen. Er antwortet immer und ist da, um mir zu helfen, aber er ruft nicht an, wenn ich es nicht tue. Ich fing an ihn zu mögen ... zutiefst ... und ich habe das Gefühl, dass ich ihn sehr vermisse. Ich denke, ich sollte trotzdem weitermachen, weil er mir gemischte Signale gibt und ich nicht weiß, ob er wirklich etwas für mich empfindet und ich weiß einfach nicht, was ich tun soll. Manchmal denke ich nur, dass er vielleicht zu alt für mich ist (er ist es) eine Art weiser Mann und er hält mich im Vergleich zu ihm wahrscheinlich nur für ein Kind) .jede Hilfe? 27. Dezember 2015, 15:54 Uhr Maryam Nikmaram Hallo. Danke, dass du da bist und meine Frage beantwortest. Da war dieser Typ, den ich vor 5 Monaten über meinen Manager kennengelernt habe. Er war sein Freund. Wir haben zusammen eine Stunde Unterricht genommen und ich habe nichts für ihn gespürt, bis er zum ersten Mal in unsere Firma kam. Als Ergebnis sprach er mit mir über diesen Tag und wie ich diesen Unterricht sah und tatsächlich gab er mir viel von Aussehen, das ich nicht ernst nahm, weil ich ihn nicht sehr gut kannte. Tage vergehen und er kommt zwei- oder dreimal im Monat in unser Büro, aber ich sehe ihn nicht. dann beschließt er zu Beginn eines neuen Projekts, mit unserem Manager zusammenzuarbeiten und einer der Investoren zu sein. Er gab mir eine Art Versuch, mich zu verstecken, während ich unter meinen anderen Freundinnen war, und ich erwiderte einen Teil seines Blicks so, wie er mich ansah, ohne zu versuchen zu flirten. Dann kam er zu unserer Firma, um einige Konstruktionsänderungen vorzunehmen, da er ein Bauplaner ist. Während ich mit meinem Manager sprach, erreichte er uns und stand ganz vor mir und direkt auf mich zu und starrte mich an, während er mit unserem Manager sprach. Da er einige Tage dort war, tat er Folgendes nur für mich und nicht für meine anderen Kolleginnen, da sie mir selbst sagten, er sei ihnen gegenüber so gleichgültig: 1. Er kam direkt auf mich zu und stand vollständig an meiner Seite und seinem Körper auf mich zu schauen und mich vor allen sehr anlächelnd an. Er hat mit mir über die Person am Telefon gesprochen und gesagt, dass sie zu viel spricht !! Als er mich erreichte, hatte er sein Handy im Lautsprechermodus und dieses Mädchen sprach ständig über einige geschäftliche Probleme. 2. Er respektierte meine Ideen, hörte sich meine Ansichten zu verschiedenen Dingen an, merkte sie sich und wiederholte einmal, was ich unseren Geschäftspartnern zuvor gesagt hatte. 3- er ahmte meine Körpersprache nach. Er begrüßte mich anders und mit einem Lächeln und ich lächelte ihn zurück. aber er hörte plötzlich auf zu flirten und wurde völlig gleichgültig, als wäre ich nicht da. Er vermied Augenkontakt mit mir völlig und sprach nur dann mit mir, wenn es nötig war. Ich hatte definitiv keine Ahnung, was los war. Ich war verwirrt. Er ging ohne Erklärung, aber 2 Tage später rief er unser Büro an und bat meinen Kollegen, ihn mit mir zu verbinden, und fragte mich nach dem Projekt, das für ihn nicht wirklich notwendig war, mich zu fragen. Am Tag nachdem ich ihn angerufen hatte, um ihm von der Frage zu erzählen, die er mir gestellt hatte, antwortete er, aber als ich mich vorstellte, konnte er nicht einmal mehr ein Wort sagen. Am Tag danach hatten wir ein Geschäftstreffen, an dem er und ich teilnahmen und auch andere. Er ignorierte mich wieder und er war sehr traurig, war chaotisch gekleidet und war nicht wirklich da, in der Besprechung meine ich. Am Ende habe ich den Sprung gewagt, ich habe ihm irgendwie gesagt, dass ich ihn mag und dass er nur freundlich ist und überhaupt nichts bedeutet. und ich sagte ok, vielleicht habe ich mich geirrt. Eines Tages, nachdem er mir eine Begrüßungsnachricht geschrieben hatte, antwortete ich auf die gleiche Weise. Später schickte ich ihm ein Infografik-Bild und er fragte mich, ob ich einen guten Arzt für Haarausfallprobleme kenne und sprach mit mir über sein Problem. Ich hörte ihm zu und gab ihm einige Ratschläge, aber er hörte nach 45 Minuten SMS auf zu schreiben, ohne es zu sagen Auf Wiedersehen oder danke. In einer anderen Nacht sagte er schließlich diesen Satz: Es gibt kein Spiel für uns! Nur Ihre Vorstellungen, auf die ich geantwortet habe: Sie haben es mir einmal klar gemacht, und ich habe ein gutes Gedächtnis, Sir. und ich habe ihm nicht mehr geschrieben, er hat es auch 21 Tage her. und habe ihn nicht einmal gesehen. Ich habe keine Ahnung von seinem Verhalten. Vielen Dank im Voraus für Ihren Rat. 12. November 2015, 16:16 Uhr anna Da ist dieser Typ in meiner Schule, der sich einmal ohne guten Grund umarmte und mich jedes Mal komisch ansah Ich ging an ihm vorbei. Damals war ich nicht wütend auf ihn und ich weiß nicht einmal warum, aber im Laufe der Zeit bekam ich langsam das Gefühl im Hinterkopf, wenn ich an ihm vorbeikam, der mir sagte: „Ich möchte, dass er mich umarmt wieder “und„ ich hoffe er sieht mich an “bald war ich mir nur sicher, dass ich in ihn verknallt war. Gleichzeitig hatte ich diesen anderen Mann in meiner Matheklasse, der immer wusste, wie man mich zum Lachen bringt, aber nicht versuchte, vor dem anderen Mädchen an meinem Tisch lustig zu sein, und ich ertappte ihn dabei, mich mit diesem komischen Blick anzustarren Ein ruhiges Lächeln, das mich irgendwie erschreckte, mich aber auch irgendwie glücklich machte. dann wurde mir klar, dass diese beiden Freunde sind und dass ich genauso mit ihnen umgehe! Ich bin ziemlich besorgt, ob es jemals soweit sein wird, dass mich mindestens einer von ihnen ausfragt. Was ist, wenn ich ihre Freundschaft beende, indem ich ja sage? Haben sie wirklich Gefühle für mich oder ist es nur meine Einbildung? Was ist, wenn sie mich gleichzeitig fragen? und welches wähle ich, wenn sie es tun? Ich weiß, ich klinge vielleicht ein bisschen erbärmlich und alles, aber ich bin mir wirklich nicht sicher, bitte hilf mir, 4. November 2015, 19:21 Uhr kat Ich arbeite mit diesem Typen, der Beachten Sie nur in den letzten Monaten. wir reden ab und zu. Ich mag ihn und würde ihn gerne mehr kennenlernen. Ich weiß nicht, ob es ihm genauso geht, er lächelt immer und hat Augenkontakt mit mir ... er ist jung, möchte aber nur Freunde mit ihm sein. wie man ihn mehr aus der Schüchternheit herausholt ... 23. September 2015, 18:41 Uhr alexys Hallo, ich bin in der Mittelschule, um genau zu sein in der achten Klasse. und ich bin diesen Sommer gerade zur alten Lyme gezogen. Ich habe es bis jetzt noch nicht bemerkt, aber ich mag ein anderes Kind in meiner Schule und ich denke, dass er mich zurück mag. aber ich bin mir nicht 100% sicher ... er scheint keinen der oben aufgeführten Zeichen zu folgen ... aber er findet einen Weg, entweder 'auf mich zu stoßen' oder mir zu helfen ... zeigt das etwas? Ich hoffe nur wirklich, dass er mich, wenn er mich mag, entweder in der 8. Klasse oder vor unserem Abschluss fragen wird, weil wir nicht auf die gleiche High School gehen werden ... bitte helfen Sie !!! 9. Juni 2015, 13:57 Uhr daisha Ich denke, er mag dich. 18. Oktober 2015, 11:33 Uhr jenny Hallo Leute, ich suche nach Ratschlägen für eine Situation, in der ich mich befinde. Ich habe vor ein paar Monaten angefangen, mit diesem Typen rumzuhängen, und wir gut miteinander auskommen. Ich werde ihn wirklich mögen und ich werde nicht lügen und sagen, dass wir nicht herumalbern. Wir hatten noch nie Sex, aber wir spielen ein bisschen herum. Als ich ihn fragte, was seine Absichten seien und dass mir eine Beziehung nichts ausmachen würde, machte er mich nicht fertig, sondern sagte, er sei gerade erst gekommen. Aus einer Beziehung heraus, in der ihm das Herz gebrochen war und er sich nicht auf etwas stürzen wollte. Er sagte, er wolle die Dinge langsam angehen lassen. Ich war ursprünglich damit einverstanden, aber jetzt frage ich mich. Ich mag diesen Kerl wirklich und ich denke, er mag mich. Ich meine, er hat mich sogar eingeladen, mit ihm und seinen Freunden nach Florida zu gehen! aber er hat darüber gesprochen, mich nicht führen zu wollen, was mich verwirrte, weil er gesagt hatte, er wolle sehen, wohin es führt, und es langsam angehen lassen. Ich weiß nicht, was ich tun soll. Ich mag diesen Kerl wirklich, aber ich möchte keinen aufwickeln, wenn diese Mädchen. dass er nur herumspielt. Teil, wenn ich ihn twll will, dass wir nicht herumalbern sollten, obwohl ich will, aber ich weiß es nicht. Ich war gerade aus einer zweieinhalbjährigen Beziehung im November herausgekommen, also machte ich mir Sorgen, weitergeführt zu werden, und ließ mich dann fallen, als hätte ich nichts gemeint. was mache ich? 27. Mai 2015, 17:36 Uhr verwirrter Lah Also traf ich diesen Typen am ersten Tag des College im Februar. Er ist wirklich süß, aber ich denke nicht, dass das wichtig ist. Nun, er war derjenige, der anfing mit mir zu reden und alles und unsere Gespräche waren nie langweilig, obwohl ich mich ein wenig überfordert fühlen würde, wenn ich mit ihm sprach, weil ich das Gefühl hatte, dass er zu heiß ist, um mit einem Mädchen wie mir zu sprechen. we have spoken about many things even private things. the thing is, i don’t know whether he likes me or not. i have found myself falling for him but i’m getting mixed signals. on all occassions that we have spoken, he was the one that approached me and i have even analyzed the way he is with his other female friends- when we’re together, there’s always a part of our body that’s touching (eg. our legs or shoulders) but with his other female friends there’s always a gap. he started ignoring me and being mean to me recently and i noticed him flirting with my friend so then i just concluded that he didnt like me and everything that i was seeing was in my head, but about a week ago he asked me whether girls like it when guys ignore them and i told him “i don’t know, i guess it depends on the girl. some girls like to do the chasing and other girls like to be chased” then he asked me,”what about you? how do you feel when i ignore you?” and i said i don’t know then he asked if i like to do the chasing or if i like to be chased then i said i like to be chased then he said “well i’m not gonna chase you” now ever since that conversation i’ve been left confused. to me i feel like he has dropped a few hints because, he was always the one that approached me, he teased me sometimes, we spoke about many private things, when we spoke to each other he always looked into my eyes and once when i was with my friend that he has been flirting with he pinched my arm and said “hey beautiful” to me but then he was like “oh i wasn’t talking to you” we’re facebook friends and i followed him on instagram but he didnt follow me back and he follow-backs everyone and this might sound weird but he has tried to headbutt me(playfully) multiple times but i always pull away cuz there would be this awkward pause and our faces would be really close to each other (literally noses touching) and he would be looking straight into my eyes i just dont know whats going on with this guy, some days he’s nice, other days he’s mean and most recently he has been ignoring me may 18, 2015, 6:28 am daisha how about you confront him, let him know how you feel october 18, 2015, 11:41 am skylar with this guy who im friends with, but we aren’t quite close enough for the usual (how to tell if a friend likes you stuff or even the friend zone things) there are a lot of mixed signals.can you help me figure out the signs listed in terms of us please? 1 initiating he 9 times out of 10 initiated in-person interactions between us, these are way more common than our not-in-person interactions, but i initiate 9-10 technology based contact interactions. 2 listens and remembers he is a good listener, he leans in, and asks questions. he remembers some tiny things from months ago but will forget a conversation the day before. 3 body language his body language is almost always the clearer sign of his potential interest for me. he leans in, constantly looks for my reactions, points his body to me and touches me. his touches and looks never (well 99% of the time) don’t seem sexual at all. he will tuck my head under his face/chin or wrap me up in hugs to where the stubble on his chin tickles my neck, and we hold hands kinda often but he never has touched my thighs or lower back even when drunk. 4 acts different around you he acts different when its just us, or just us and his cousin (one of my best friends), really in any different group. and idk what he is like when im not there. i also think he acts different towards me. he says my name in one of two ways always and his voice gets softer, i feel like in general he is a little softer/gentler with me… but i think i tend to pull out most guys protective sides in general. while im really independent and have a feisty side im very maternal and feminine and make men feel like they should protect me (so ive been told very often by lots of men) so it could be that… 5 compliments he has given me 4 compliments on my appearance, and tends to tease me other times (which are usually times other guys tell me i look good). but with compliments, he has never used pretty, sexy, beautiful. it’s usually “i like…”or you/ your hair looks really good”. or he has said (teasing) “you look spoiled” then he re-worded it as “you can tell you like nice things by how you dress yourself” usually he more makes me sound cocky… {1) “you dont know how to act when you get your hair freshly done”} {2) “you think you own the beach dont you?” (he grabed the sweater i was wearing, when i said “i dont need your abuse” jokingly he was like “i like it! you look good”} so as you can see each sign is kinda there so im having a hard time determining if he does each of the five enough for me to be confident in his interest… may 15, 2015, 6:02 pm shazza ok well this is a long story… there is this guy i like… and i have kinda liked him for like 3 years now… and i can’t move on even though last year my friend asked if he liked me and he said we were just good friends… but this year we seem to be a bit closer as friends and he seems to be interested but i’m not sure if i’m just exadurating the signs and i just really need some advice cause my friends just tell me to move on but i can’t… and when i look at posts/pics that say my happy place is with you it makes me want to cry and just die! i get this empty and hollow feeling inside and i just curl up in a ball and try not to think about it… i don’t know if he’s just scared about being in a relationship cause his last relationship was with one of my ex-best friends who we have a mutual hate for, and she treated him like crap… someone please help me… ???? may 6, 2015, 6:59 am anet minsrolanh i know a guy, who’s very outgoing, goofy, and very good guy. i mean it when i say he’s good guy,because he’s christian, like help people, don’t curse, very intelligent, has a gift of speech, and very charming. at the first time we meet with including one of our mutual friends, we were having a great time. i attracted to him at the first sight because he was so handsome, he look edward from twillight, i am not kidding. when we first meet i felt like we were flirting to each. we talked like we had known each other before. he said my smile face looks like keira knightley. i was stunned by his compliment. the problem is i don’t know that if he treat me the same as everyone else or different. i like me pictures on facebook, tease me on facebook, and we chat on facebook. on time we ended up talking like 5 hours. he wrote me long message, a lot of emojis, many winky faces, he wanted me to sent him picture of me when with my new hair style, he send me picture of weird and funny stuffs and his works, and he the conversation end by his last sentence. one time i texted and asked him why he spend time talking to me, and he said “cuz” then he changed the subject, then i asked him a second time, and he answered “because we’re friends. i was so sad, and maybe angry. why i was angry? because in the i felt like he like me too according to the text he sent me. i started to that i can’t be friend with him, which i really like and i don’t want to pretend to be one. i told him that night that we should no longer message on facebook, i told him i made a mistake, and his reaction was “a mistake?” er sagte. he went on and called my name, “i don’t understand.” i was very frustrated, i was confused when he said that he didn’t understand. i told him again that i like him since the day we met, and i told him as a second time i said “please stop texting me, you make this hard to me, we will still talking if i see you in person.” he stubbornly continued sending me his text and screenshots picture to should that his phone lowing the battery, i thought it was cute. the story got was when, he stop to send me after he got ignored by me, and i felt like hell that night. my heart was ached. i couldn’t help myself so i sent an apologize text about what i did to him. he replied me instantly and he said “that was nice to you to apologize, everything is ok.” from then we started to talk again. i texted him a first each time, i started to feel vulnerable and awkwardness. i screwed up again. i sent him another message of how i felt that he and i shouldn’t talk. it was so stupid of me. it was the weirdest message ever. :( april 16, 2015, 2:52 am serenity okay. i have the exact opposite situation then most of the people here. i am fifteen and i have a shitload of guys who like me and i get confessions everyday. i finally got together with a guy just to have a reason to say no. there is a guy in my class who at least according to my friends is the hottest guy in our high school which is pretty small. he is always staring at me and he gives me occasional smiles, the kind guys save for girls. his bestfriend usually tells him that he couldn’t save a seat next to me as he doesn’t want it to be too obvious. or so i think. we are the only computer students so when ever we are in the computer science class he is always trying to impress me. i have seen him ignoring other girls to look at me. once my friend caught him staring at me. he blushed bright red, according to her, and then fixed his hair as if hoping i would turn to look at him. a few days ago, he started passing even more smiles. our school has a strict no contact with the opposite sex rule, it’s catholic. so we haven’t talked or anything but he has been doing this for almost six months now. i just shifted to this school about wight months ago. i have also seen him looking at other girls when i am around but that was when it was just us with the computer teacher. i want to tell him somehow that i am not interested. any ideas on how i should do that? april 12, 2015, 8:22 am dallas i love this guy he may love me he says he does but now hes moving im 17 what do i do? march 25, 2015, 4:16 pm payel i am in love with my professor of my college, but this has become public and he has come to know about this from my friends in public. he has privately asked me for the truth but since i had my parents near me i could not confess it. but now i cant stay well anymore and i had decided to propose him indirectly in a letter. is it a right decision or not?? march 13, 2015, 11:54 am hellobaby im sorry but that is such a stupid move. march 18, 2015, 6:45 am betty oh no, that’s not the way… it’s in his kiss, that’s where it is. shoop shoop shoop shoop. february 9, 2015, 8:18 pm hanna okay so i’ll try make this short but there is a a lot to say. basically there’s this guy that i’ve known my whole life,but it wasn’t until i was around 13 i started getting “crushy” feelings about him…and then around the ages 13-15 i had so many crushes as i went through what i call my “crush phase”(man do i cringe) anyway among those crushes he was still there but i never told anyone…for reasons i will touch on further down. anyway so by the end of 15 years old-16 my feelings intensified in a way i never thought possible. i should touch on a few things before i continue. one i have never have a bf (whether that is good or bad i don’t know) ..we are friends and the reason why this is so hard is because i never acted on my feelings so i have no idea how anyone feels…the biggest factor,for me at least is the age difference of 6 years(bear with)i know its a lot but when i thought about it, its the same as my parents.(i’m 17 ) at first this age gap scared me as i wondered if it was normal to have these feelings. i told two of my closet friends one who found it slightly weird but got it and the other completely understood…since i told them a lot had happened..( one doesn’t realise i still like them but since i’m busy sorting it out for myself i don’t want to say i don’t like or do. although i totally do. oh man i do. ) the next thing is that obviously due to the age gap he is further along in education than me and start of 2014 he went to aussie and it was hard…i found myself in this situation where i thought that him gone for so long would make me move on…if anything a whole year did the opposite….he came back for xmas and left before the start of this yr and something tells me my feelings won’t change…obviously i still go ..hey that guys cute etc..but its nothing compared to how i feel about him..whenever i think about him i still get butterflies in my chest. anyway basically… nobody knew..except my two friends and i have a feeling its always going to be unrequited love. but i’ve never felt so strongly and for so long about someone before..my crushes were like a term or two long… this has been years…ive had days where i wonder if i am crazy and then days when i’m so 100% sure…more of those of course…he’s always been a part of my life whether it was him messing up my hair to him piggy backing me when i felt faint…seeing him wveryweek 3 times a week ..for music prac . youth group and church.. i just… i’ve tried getting over him and it does not work. i guess i’m just letting this all out….i’m just gonna wait ..for xmas when i’ll hopefully see him again..above all i just want him to he happy but yeah..sometimes it hurts so bad and the memories ..ah…ok but i’m stopping now before i make a novel..unless that’s too late. i apologize for spelling errors i am on my phone. …and just to all those people out there…no matter what your scenario… go for it like i never did. and don’t be so fast to let go..sometimes its too late when u realise what you need was right in front of you….also if anyone is in the same situation as me please ! i’d love to know i’m not alone..and any advice or comments are very much welcome…otherwise have a nice day. enjoy reading this and bye ???? february 9, 2015, 3:53 am hanna okay so i’ll try make this short but there is a a lot to say. basically there’s this guy that i’ve known my whole life,but it wasn’t until i was around 13 i started getting “crushy” feelings about him…and then around the ages 13-15 i had so many crushes as i went through what i call my “crush phase”(man do i cringe) anyway among those crushes he was still there but i never told anyone…for reasons i will touch on further down. anyway so by the end of 15 years old-16 my feelings intensified in a way i never thought possible. i should touch on a few things before i continue. one i have never have a bf (whether that is good or bad i don’t know) ..we are friends and the reason why this is so hard is because i never acted on my feelings so i have no idea how anyone feels…the biggest factor,for me at least is the age difference of 6 years(bear with)i know it seems lile a lot but when i thought about it, its the same as my parents.(i’m 17 ) at first this age gap scared me as i wondered if it was normal to have these feelings but now i myself am fine with it. i told two of my closet friends one who found it slightly weird but got it and the other completely understood…since i told them a lot had happened..( one doesn’t realise i still like them but since i’m busy sorting it out for myself i don’t want to say i don’t like or do. although i totally do. oh man i do. ) the next thing is that obviously due to the age gap he is further along in education than me and start of 2014 he went to aussie and it was hard…i found myself in this situation where i thought that him gone for so long would make me move on…if anything a whole year did the opposite….he came back for xmas and left before the start of this yr and something tells me my feelings won’t change…obviously i still go ..hey that guys cute etc..but its nothing compared to how i feel about him..whenever i think about him i still get butterflies in my chest. anyway basically… nobody knew..except my two friends and i have a feeling its always going to be unrequited love. but i’ve never felt so strongly and for so long about someone before..my crushes were like a term or two long… this has been years…ive had days where i wonder if i am crazy and then days when i’m so 100% sure…more of those of course…he’s always been a part of my life whether it was him messing up my hair to him piggy backing me when i felt faint…seeing him wveryweek 3 times a week ..for music prac . youth group and church.. i just… i’ve tried getting over him and it does not work. i guess i’m just letting this all out….i’m just gonna wait ..for xmas when i’ll hopefully see him again..above all i just want him to he happy but yeah..sometimes it hurts so bad and the memories ..ah…ok but i’m stopping now before i make a novel..unless that’s too late. i apologize for spelling errors i am on my phone. …and just to all those people out there…no matter what your scenario… go for it like i never did. and don’t be so fast to let go..sometimes its too late when u realise what you need was right in front of you….also if anyone is in the same situation as me please ! i’d love to know i’m not alone..and any advice or comments are very much welcome…otherwise have a nice day. enjoy reading this and bye ???? february 9, 2015, 3:13 am sophia i really want to have a boyfriend! even though i might be different and unique and just plan boring sometimes i sure do hope a guy likes me someday. jehovah will help me with the problems that i go through and that iv’e been through already. i feel very very blessed. what i always say is if a man doesn’t think your pretty then there’s something wrong with him. -sophia january 27, 2015, 2:51 pm sophia i really want to have a boyfriend! even though i might be different and unique and just plan boring sometimes i sure do hope a guy likes me someday. jehovah will help me with the problems that i go through and that iv’e been through already. i feel very very blessed. what i always say is if a man doesn’t think your pretty then there’s something wrong with him. -sophia j. january 27, 2015, 2:50 pm shaz i have been living with this guy for a year now. he asked me to move in with him after 6 months of dating. i’ve met all his family members, attended family gatherings, etc. we’re planning on getting married this christmas. what i don’t understand is, sometimes when i am on duty travels, he makes plans to travel to other cities and let’s me know like on the day or a day before his departure. i also realised that he doesn’t give me gifts or take me out or remember special occassions. the funny thing is he hasn’t met my family. he talks of meetng them and made an effort but one the day we got into an arguement and just forgot the whole idea. he never talks about it again. last time, i saw a booking he made to fly to brisbane for 5days and this is around the time that i get to do my next duty travel. he hasn’t told me about this trip yet. aren;t people living together in a relationship not supposed to keep secrets? i don’t understand this… does he really love me? if he doesn’t then why does he want me to live with him and marry him even… i don’t understand this! please somebody out there help me understand this person… january 22, 2015, 6:29 pm irisheyes2c oh, honey this doesn’t sound good at all. if i were you i would look for an apartment. tell him that it bothers you and if he is evasive or won’t answer the question, avoids eye contact with you, then there is something very wrong. i wouldn’t want you to not have an alternative place to live. i don’t trust most people in general and he sounds fishy. is he in the military too? think with your head and not your heart and the answer will be there. march 21, 2015, 4:35 pm mary i believe since the relationship have move to the exclusive one it should be no secret with both of you hold off from marriage see what happen. december 18, 2016, 4:45 pm cristal so this guy is constantly talking to me and he tries to touch me accidently he even lays his head in my desk and pushes his legs up against mine, he’s always there for me and i’m always there for him. yet he’s only there for me regarding school. and he has a girlfriend although i can tell he really likes me and he’s not once mentioned his gf in front of me. he’s gorgeous and amazing, but he’s taken. she’s really pretty too. i have no idea what to do january 18, 2015, 8:03 pm britney let him go he has a gf january 3, 2016, 7:16 pm jordan theres a guy in my life that i work with who acts exactly like this but he never asks me out outside of work so a large part of me doesn’t really believe he likes me… january 9, 2015, 7:36 pm sue dear innocent people if someone likes or loves you for real! they will hang around you like a fly around food…and many more signs. but better than signs don’t assume they like you, don’t fall for them unless their own mouth tells you to your face : ” i love you”. january 3, 2015, 4:08 pm sares this is so helpful, thanks! but i need some serious guy advice! i have been hanging out with this guy for a couple of months. he is super shy (both self admitted and told to me by friends). i met him in january but he didn’t really talk to me in any real way until august. we have been hanging out first fortnightly then weekly and now a few times a week since then. we’ve had what my friends call “sneaky dates” where we have started by just hanging out to do a work related task together and then he’s taken me somewhere lovely (think candles and proper restaurant) for dinner. for christmas he bought me the most thoughtful gift from my favourite shop – despite him not being into christmas (his family give cash not gifts). he calls me every day – sometimes two or three times a day. all of these signs tell me he likes me. but then he has made no move on me. he talks about how he’s never been happier than when he broke up with his ex (as he doesn’t have to “check in” with anyone anymore and he can do what he wants whenever he wants) and he talks about “hot” women (not in a dating sense just how hot they are and how he should get some) he is completely respectful to me so i don’t feel like he is friend zoning me – i just don’t understand what message he’s trying to give me when he talks about picking up a hot chick (note he hasn’t actually made any move on these girls and doesn’t even talk to other women when i’m around!) so guys out there – what’s your advice? what do i do?! Danke im Voraus! december 28, 2014, 6:44 pm juno ask him out. he’s shy and he’s giving you hints that he likes you. shy guys have a really hard time breaking out of that shell and making the move. so maybe you should make the move if you like him back. ask him directly if he likes you and wants to try dating you. he’ll appreciate your honesty and find it easier to open up to you once you break the barrier. december 30, 2014, 2:40 pm happiness hey! im just a curious abt something hahaha. but its just that this guy in my school..i mean..we dont even talk (well,only during my orientation day in my school when he asked im from which country) that moment onwards ive had this tingly crush on him till today. no progress. its okay. the thing is we always bump into each other everyday in school be it at the canteen or library. this is when it starts to get interesting. we would secretly look at each other (nope,im not daydreaming but we usually caught each oher looking at the other) but no smiles just a straight face and this happen all the time. sometimes when we’re alone we would be in the other’s face like walkng close by etc hahaaha. its kinda fun actually and its a mystery as well. the other day i was standing in front of the counter where they put napkins there and out of nowhere this guy came without even saying excuse me just took the tissue like its nothing. mannnn i go crazy everyday with these gestures. what is thissssss november 23, 2014, 7:07 am mary great “post!!” december 6, 2014, 1:54 am dehwl ass mannnn december 18, 2014, 7:42 am please help i knew this guy seince 5th grade. in 5th grade my friend told me he liked me. now in 6th grade during gym i was talking about this other guy because my friend was wondering how i knew him and the guy i knew science 5th grade looked back at me and overheard me talking about this other guy and now he stopped talking to me. doe he still like me or is he jealous that i was talking about another guy? please help me . november 15, 2014, 11:57 am it sucks you should go tell him you like him, that is if you do. he is probably jealous & still likes you & thinks you like the guy you were talking about. i know because it happened to me but i was too late in telling him iike him & so he kind of moved on. our friendship suffered because of jealousy, he did say hi to me today but it was brief, no more long conversations, we seem like acquaintances now, it sucks. march 4, 2015, 12:33 am singleandhappy speaking as someone who has been completely single for the past 20 years and will stay that way, i do not understand the headline of this article. the headline says “5 telltale signs he likes you,” and then the first thing says this: “he initiates- if you’re at a party, he comes up to you and strikes up a conversation.” so you’ve never met and are already talking about “liking” someone? there is no way to know if you like someone just by seeing them with your eyes. seeing is “physical attraction,” especially if you have never met. it’s not “like.” the only way to know if you like someone is a whole lotta talking to one another, watching how they react to you and others in different situations, etc. stay away from anything physical/sexual and just talk with them. viel. then you’ll know if you like them or they like you. november 12, 2014, 11:06 pm mary absolutely, singleandhappy! no doubt! yep! u bet ya! now, that’s the “way” to “do” it–finding out if someone likes you or not!!– december 28, 2014, 10:42 pm sara i’m going through some relationship issues and i need major help. i’ve been dating a guy since 6 months and everything seemed great at first but then things started changing. i know i made a mistake by being very needy and kept bugging him. above all i used to talk to my friends about my relationship issues and obe day he read my conversation and got pissed but that eventually got sorted. 3 days back he told me he isn’t over his ex as it was a long relationship of 3 years and he needed time. when he started with me he was ready to move on but my behavior is disturbing him and now he thinks we rushed things and should have gotten to know each other as he isn’t able to figure out how to handle me. he asked me to start over as friends. i clearly asked him if he was seeing is ex again but he denied it and said that he is with me only . also he agreed when i asked that what he wants is that we remain in a relationship but kind off take a break as friends. anyways then i didn’t contact him and after one day just one day he texts me and tells me he misses me. and then he asks me “what if after some time i want to get back with you. and you like someone else” and he at one point is calling me his girl and at the same time a friend. he made it clear he’s doing it so that when a guy asks me if i’m single i have no . Ich mag ihn wirklich. we’re having casual talks and i think we might connect at a different level this time. right now we’re having major exams and maybe he’s stressed out or something? i’m so confused about what he wants. i really really like this guy and i want him back in my life. please please help me out and tell me how to get him back then we were also having a conversation about a random topic and he said that happens between couples. so i said so we’re not a couple and he’s like we’re on a break. i don’t know what’s going on and it’s effecting me and my studies november 7, 2014, 11:09 pm bo hi, i am sorry you are going through this and i understand how confusing it can be. i think you should really focus on yourself and with school. he is being selfish in the sense that he wants to keep you only for later and wants a relationship with you only on his own time, which is very unfair for you and you shouldn’t let him treat you like this. i believe you deserve a better person who is willing to be with you whole-heartedly and to put you first. i am sorry if this is not what you want to hear, but i truly believe that you should focus on yourself and just take a step back and re-evaluate this situation. it is hard but you will be able to get through this :) november 15, 2014, 1:52 am gracie my crush always does the following(according to my very observant best friend and myself); -he always stares at me -he always smiles at me -always laughs when around me -checked me out three times -went behind me really close so i could feel his body on mine -found out my sister once told me to kill myself (happened a lot more before but he only knows about the one time) and got really pale -sat in front of me during lunch once and i wasn’t eating so he looked away and bit his lip -when my tank top was falling he was looking at my chest and biting his lip -he saw me writing something and looked at the top where it said “suicide notes.” and he got pale again -i was showing my friend something on the computer (demi a quote she said) and he leaned foward to see what i was showing her and smiled a little ( he knows i’m a little [i am actually a lot insecure but he doesn’t know] and it said “i like my booty and thighs. i have curves get over it.) -he sits in front of me in science and during a video he kicked my feet twice lightly and in the same video it said turquie so his friend whispered something in his ear and he blushed and looked at me -he asked me if i still liked one direction and when i nodded and said my name is gracie horan he looked kind of (just a little) jealous – during a project he stood next to me and brushed his arm against mine (he always does that) – he always stares at me when i walk into the room in the morning – i went into my ela class shouting larry shipper (don’t hate me i ship elounor too) he looked at me and 5 minutes later i looked at him and he was looking at me still – at the beginning of lunch he was walking towards my friend and i and staring at me the whole time he was talking to us – one day last year he was absent in math but came back to school for the afternoon and when i was walking to get my paper from the printer he asked me if there was any homework and because i finished it i said no (each time i think i’m done with what he’s been doimg for the past 3 years i’m like nope there’s that one too lol) – there was an activity in math where i had to pretend to be a guy named dally winston from the outsiders the next day he math he wouldnt stop talking to me about it and my friend teased me about of course she was in our math class wiggling her eyebrows when he kept talking october 27, 2014, 8:35 pm gracie torque sounds like twerk btw october 27, 2014, 10:46 pm sara i got a match on tinder with this cutie on july 3rd. he’s absolutely adorable, and honestly the most amazing man i could ever imagine god sending me. there are only a few things that make this too good to be true: 1) i’ve never dated a younger guy before just for the maturity sake, i am a very mature 23 year old and i’ve been in and out of long and hard relationships and i am no longer up to playing games. he is 22 and though it scares me, it seems he has his life figured out and he is pretty darn mature. 2) he is in the army. i love our troops and honestly i am really into this guy and i would gladly support him in whatever, but we all know the army guys have a reputation for being dogs. 3) he is getting out of the army around may and is moving to a different state. i know this already sounds crazy and believe me once finding all of this out i expressed my concerns to him early on. i plainly said i think you are a great guy, but frankly i’m not up to getting to know you in that type of way if you are moving next year, because i don’t want to fall in love with you and then there be no us after may. he basically said he is not the type to fall in love and leave and to give him a chance so i did. the first week he wanted to meet me and of course considering i hadn’t been talking to him that long i was too shy and told him i was busy. he left for 14 days on leave visiting family and friends and then once he got back we kept trying to make plans and things kept coming up on my end unfortunately. i constantly apologized and would try to still meet up on another day, well finally we got the chance to meet, and i swear if you could fall in love on a first date i was probably there. this guy was everything i’ve been praying for and he is absolutely more than perfect. the date was amazing and of course i did something i have never done before and i let him stay over. i’m never that type of girl and i assure you nothing went on but a bunch of snuggling. (perfect date). he seemed just as into me as i was into him, he constantly texted me and complimented me, it couldn’t have been any better. then all of a sudden i noticed this other girl on his fb, instagram and snapchat. i tried not to worry because he hasn’t given me a reason to, but due to my last relationship full of being cheated on i can’t but help to worry. this girl eventually ended up being his number one on snapchat, still not a big issue right?! well we made plans for that saturday but the closer it came to it he began to become distant, he texted me friday saying how much he hated his job and how he had punishment on saturday for the army and wouldn’t be able to see me. his punishment was a 24 hr duty, well later saturday when i got home and got on facebook i saw this picture of him at a white trash bash. the party was just a small gathering of him and his buddies with a few of their wives and gfs, but still i felt like i had been lied to and blown off. i waited for him to text and basically he fibbed about it i believe and i just went off. i explained that i am an understanding girl and that if he had plans all he had to do was explain the party came up and could he see me sunday or even invite me to go. i mean i wouldn’t have cared just don’t blow me off and don’t lie to me. well he apologized a million times and i told him to drop it and he continued to apologize so i believe he was sincere about it. then he made plans to see me sunday and of course right before he left he got a migraine (he gets them all the time and takes medication for it) so i just tried to dismiss it in my mind as the truth. i still felt he was being distant that week and i confronted him and just basically said look you know i am really into you (we’ve both already admitted it) but i just want to be sure you are even looking for anything considering you are moving possibly for good next year, because i don’t want to fall for you and you not even be interested in having anything. he replied back,” i want to see where things go. i really like you, but i’ve had relationship mess up fast in the past and i don’t want that to happen to us.” so i tried easing my mind a little. we ended up seeing each other that friday and i hate to admit it because i’m seriously a good girl, but things kind of went too far and we slept together. i regret it sooooooo much because that’s just not who i am. it wasn’t either of our intentions as we’ve both only prior been with 3 people all super long relationships. after that he seemed to be a lot better, we they have been super busy at work and i seriously am a very understanding girl, but he just seemed to fade away again, i confronted him the past friday once more, because i am a straight up girl. i plainly said look i think you are an amazing guy but i don’t feel you are that into me, and that’s fine if that’s the case and once again he assured me he is into me just super busy. he said he will put in more effort and he promises after all this training we will spend lots more time together. here is my thing though. as you all can tell i fell really fast for this guy, i feel like i’ve known him my whole life and i am serious about him. i have already thought about careers i could do with my degree if things worked out and i moved with him. i know it sounds a little crazy but seriously i feel like god sent him to me. now on the flip side, i believe he is a great guy and he is sincere but honestly i have been hurt so much before i feel like maybe he is just saying that to appease me and that in fact he maybe likes me but definitely isn’t looking for anything. i just believe if a guy is into you that he will make time to see you. and we’ve been texting for 2 months and we’ve only talked on the phone a handful and face timed once and only hung out 2 times. i am beginning to get super bummed and i feel like i am getting mixed signals. i am so scared because i know i am falling super hard super fast and i don’t know what to do. i like him entirely too much to quit talking to him because i already couldn’t imagine my days without him, but i don’t want to be strung along to fall in love and then after may there be no more me and him. please help me!!!! =(( september 17, 2014, 11:19 am lou this for guys only. the truth is that if a woman is interested in you she will find a way to make you aware of it. if you do what the writer says you will do if you are interested you will be dead meat. the choice is made by the woman, always. especially in the case of very attractive women. in fact, the more attractive a woman is the less obvious you should be about your interest. nothing is less attractive to a woman than a man she knows she has conquered from the start. remember this, from the moment of meeting her nothing will ever happen between you two that she does not want to happen. deal with it because it’s true. we all know the old saying that ” it’s a man’s world “, right ? wrong. when it comes to the world of romance it is exactly the other way around. september 5, 2014, 4:56 pm thomas chimera it seems to me that romance is the kind of thing that happens — more times than not — at fir st sight. you can build to it like i suppose is the adult thing to do, but to me the whole scrambled eggs of it is less a reasonable thing in your head than it’s some form of cupid’s magic. of course if the magic dust does at first favor you with it’s presence, despite man’s innate efforts to mess it up, somehow the sleight of hand just never lets that damn rabbit in the hat ever die. peace. september 4, 2014, 8:57 pm dharani hi guys!!!!!am in big confusion,pls help me on thz,am loving one guyz,he also accepted it,we used to chat at late nights,we continue thz fa one month,but now he is telling me”we stop talking fa 6 months” i dono what to do,bcoz i really love him a lot,wat to do guys??!!! september 3, 2014, 8:22 am ct well, you could start by putting the f—ing cell phone down for a few hours a day!!!! god!! you text so much it has taken over for your actual language!! you abreviate thz, and fa, whatever they are….if you meant “this” for “thz” you’re way off the mark, and yet you don’t abreviate “months” (mos.), or continue (cont.), among others. i’ll give you the benefit of the doubt because it very likely that english is not your first language – i hope!! october 20, 2014, 10:33 am ct i mis-spelled “abbreviate”. oops! october 20, 2014, 10:36 am jessica i’m looking for insight i’ll almost certainly never obtain from anyone other than the very person who has perplexed me for over 30 years now! yes, 30 years! this man has to be the shiest person in the world! when a mutual friend introduced us back in the ’60’s we were both 20-something and single. (he asked her for introduction to me.) i had been involved with a different man for about 3 years but he was gone for several months establishing a business when i met mr. shy and we started seeing each other. our mutual friend warned me that mr. s. was abnormally shy (but only) with women. i could tell and tried to reassure him with smiles, body language even though the man barely said a word all the times we were together. (btw: we were never involved sexually.) without seeming full of myself, i need to say that i was unusually attractive and never lacked for guys falling all over me. needless to say, i was not used to a man who just smiled at me like he could eat me up, and kiss me a few times, but never ever talked about anything. he had everything a man could wish for so i am completely baffled as to why he should feel shy (scared?) around women. and, although he was quiet and well-mannered, he did not appear bashful or socially uncomfortable with others. after a few get-togethers, i became very flustered as to if he truly liked me or if not, why he kept seeing (only?) me. in my frustration, i made a couple of really, really, bad choices. the first one: after an evening of social drinking & music, i told him the only reason i was seeing him was because he reminded me of my boyfriend (they did look almost identical except for height). that wasn’t true at all but i just wanted to see his reaction. he didn’t show any!!! just kept smiling that beautiful smile. the end to our relationship(?) came when his band had one last gig and he said: “you’re going to be there, aren’t you?” i looked at him and replied: “i don’t know. good-bye mel.” i chose to not attend the last session deliberately. i figured if he was interested, he’d call and ask me why i wasn’t there. well, he didn’t call. our mutual friend was present at his last performance and he asked her and she told him what i had told her earlier when she wanted to know why i wasn’t joining our girlfriends for our usual friday night out: “i have my reasons.” Das war's. in all the years since, i’ve never even once run into him in this medium-sized city we share. i’ve tried to get information about him–if he was married, children? etwas. but there are no records that show he ever married, divorced, was widowed, had any children and, in fact, a friend of a friend who knows him said mel has never married. we’re both old now. he lives only about 5 miles from where i do–each in our own homes. i married the old boyfriend because he insisted on getting married which was not what i wanted but i figured i ought to be doing what all my friends were doing but that was also a big, huge mistake. i divorced him within 3 years of the so-called marriage and reared our child practically alone. i’ve dated a lot and been socially active, but i’ve never remarried and, in my old age, realize i still love mel. i don’t want anyone but him. is it possible to be sooooooo shy as to live your entire life alone? never marry or have family? surely that isn’t normal. i’m beginning to toy with the idea that perhaps mel’s shyness is much more severe than just bashfulness–could it be a form of autism? or some other complication? i feel bad he has (seemingly) missed out on so much love and intimacy at the same time i feel even worse imagining what a loving life we might have had together. is it really better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all? –jessica august 24, 2014, 5:53 pm tacara-mi #1. instead of all the hinting and trying to decipher “signals,” just ask him. if he likes you he’ll tell you. if you like him, then tell him. stop playing the games and be straightforward. august 24, 2014, 2:43 pm amanda ok so there’s this guy i’ve known for a few months now and we hang out at school at couple times a week, there was recently a game and he won king so i took a picture with him and when we hugged he pulled me really close to him like he jerked me into him. then there was a dance the next night we got more pictures together the first time he kinda hid his hand under my arm and touched me breast and the second time he put it right under but still touched it. then we met up at school a few days after and he was staring in my eyes for a few minutes and he started blushing and froze up. i think he likes me but it’s hard to tell because we’re 3 years apart so i don’t know if he likes me. i been thinking about asking him out but i just want to make sure he likes me and if its a good idea. march 15, 2015, 9:49 am sarah what if he is always acting strange around you, listens and remember about the things you have to say but has a girlfriend. he could be spending time with her he even said he doesnt get a lot of time with her but spends it with me instead. i dont know what to do. august 5, 2014, 3:30 am april maybe he likes you more than his girlfriend and wants to go out with you instead november 15, 2014, 12:00 pm toma i need advice . me and my ex boyfriend . and then he abruptly broke up with me . and then i found out from his and i bestfriend that he started dating his best friend . and my ex boyfriend and i had a healthy relationship . and then i also learned from our common best friend that my ex is confused about who he likes more , me or his best friend . i don’t know . what to do . help ! please august 2, 2014, 7:00 am maria gomez i just started talking to this guy which i forgot all about but he found me on facebook i really like him but im so confused about his feelings for me he had not text me for 3 days so i decided to text him and tell him it was obvious he didnt like me in a manner i did him so that we would remain freinds that if he needed a freind to talk to i would always be there for him anyways he text me back put a sad face crying and asked if i was dumping him its things like this that makes me so confused about his feelings i asked if he was back with his ex which i know hes not happy at all with but he doesnt respond to my question and when i tell him he was posibly with some other girl he tells me theres no.other girls could you tell me what this means july 30, 2014, 12:15 am ken you’ll get further confirmation of this if he remembers the things you told him: where you went to high-school, your major in college, the name of your first pet – and uses the information to hack into your bank account. july 27, 2014, 10:16 am marty mannor can this ever be rectified? i am a woman, 73. in my mid-twenty’s, through a mutual friend, i met and dated a single man my age. it was an apparent mutual attraction but i got impatient because the man is incredibly shy around women and i couldn’t get him to talk much or express himself. in ignorance and inexperience with this kind of personality, i made a couple of big mistakes in trying to get him to make his feelings known to me. in so doing, i stood him up on a night of great importance and i never heard from him again. i have been kicking my own butt for 50 years! i still love him, even after marrying, having a child, and divorcing another. i have remained single since my divorce 43 years ago and, as nearly as i can tell from asking around, checking public records, etc., he has never married. we live in the same town, not too far from each other; we’re both retired successful business people who’s homesteads reflect our compatibility. i’m sure he will never, ever contact me and i’m too unsure of myself, embarrassed, etc., to contact him. is there any hope of us ever getting back together? i would like nothing more than to live the rest of my life making him happy. irgendein Rat? please email me with your thoughts. july 26, 2014, 7:19 pm prayed up so 2001 new divorce meets hot guy tells him don’t fall in love . he is younger than me i didn’t want to give him a ready made life i wanted him to live and then decide. this worked perfect for five years no strings i had boyfriends during that time i’m sure he dated but we were just comfort and passion. we finally talked about dating for real after six years. he told me of his last dating experience in which he was stabbed hate to say she was crazy she stabbed him went to jail .. he is a gentle guy fast forward we are happy happy . he and i are supposed to meet out and instead i get a call that he can’t see me he is having a baby. crazy stabbing girl was five months pregnant. i said good luck prayed for him and stayed away. we ran into eachother and just froze i pretty much ran away from him. he called right away it was crazy to have those feeling and not act but we didn’t . we did stay in touch a year later they broke up we were together since then it’s just been he keeps falling for her suicide crazy bullshit he goes back thinking it’s good for his child we see eachother all the time she knows she has always known about me. so now i’m the homewrecker and everyone’s heart is broken . he wants to be with me i’m his happiness but the guilt and the games the things she says to his child it’s just eating me up. i have prayed and trying to leave it alone. july 17, 2014, 8:32 am dan the crazy girl probably has a cluster b personality disorder. your guy friend needs to have as limited contact with her as possible, and needs to start collecting evidence so that he can get full custody of the child. he needs to do it now before he ends up in jail or dead!!! october 17, 2014, 11:59 am caitlin i’ve read all the emails and tried to understand the guy i’ve been talking to. we have actually discussed this and he flat out told me but it seems that he really don’t know what he want truthfully. he told me he wasn’t over his ex fiancé and he does like me and has since high school also i understand that’s happen, hes busy at work or i’m at work. i don’t text him all the time first most the time he texts first. i really like him and i’ve never liked anyone ever(liked the thought of some guys) but i don’t want anyone else and that i just want him but i can’t wait forever. i believe him that he’s not over his ex, but here’s the kicker he’s brought up the topic of having children with me. july 15, 2014, 3:24 pm caitlin i’ve read all the emails and tried to understand the guy i’ve been talking to. we have actually discussed this and he flat out told me but it seems that he really don’t know what he want truthfully. he told me he wasn’t over his ex fiancé and he does like me and has since high school also i understand that’s happen, ge’s is busy at work or i’m at work. i don’t text him all the time first most the time he texts first. i really like him and i’ve never liked anyone ever(liked the thought of some guys) but i don’t want anyone else and that i just want him but i can’t wait forever. i believe him that he’s not over his ex, but here’s the kicker he’s brought up the topic of having children with me. july 15, 2014, 3:24 pm katlyn yes, i would like to know how to tell if a guy likes you through texting. there is this guy i like and there is a chance he likes me too. but the only way we talk is through texting. he lives 30 minutes away and we both work. and he tells me im cute and funny and we send the little kissing emojis to each other. but…. idk. Bitte hilf mir! july 12, 2014, 5:09 pm amber i have been with this guy for 2 months. i think i’ve already fallin for him but i don’t know if he feels the same way. we met online and we live in the same town. i messaged him on a website and in a day i heard from him. we stayed up all night talking and the very next night he took me out on a date. but after that i didn’t hear from him for a week than when i finally got a hold of him he said he had a family problem. which i understand and forgave him. than we talked all the time. he’s a truck driver and he’s gone for a week at a time which i’m completely fine with. he would text me when he woke up, called me all the time, and we would talk for hours but that’s when he was on the road. he’s been home for three weeks now and i’ve only seen him twice. he says he wants to be with me and wants to be together and sees us being together for a very long time maybe even getting married and have a kid. but when he’s home its like i don’t exist and i have to text or call him to be able to talk to him. we make plans but something always seems to happen on his side. i haven’t heard from him for a week and its like the second or third time that its been a week that i haven’t heard from him. ive met a few of his friends but not his mother he says he wants us to meet. i have talked to his mother over text tho but it was really just her saying he was asleep and she would have him call me when he woke. and she knows that were in a relationship. i just feel like he’s not interested and i could really use some help please. please help me? :( july 5, 2014, 3:06 am kathleen i have been talking to this guy for a few months. we met at work and had a connection from the start. we had some of the same friends, so when i was with them he was there to. we would be near each other almost the hole time. we become closer as friends. i began to get feelings for him. one day i just told him, i mean what’s the worst that could happen, he doesn’t like me back. he ended up saying he did like me to, but wanted to get to no each other more, and he didn’t want to be in a relationship at the time. we got even closer. we could tell each other everything and everything. we talked about possibly being together in the future but he wasn’t ready yet. he asked me to be patient with him. he said he wasn’t talking to anyone else just me. he had a bad day one night and he asked if i could go for a walk with him, i did. this was the first time we hung out by our selfs. we bumped into each other a few times. i played the i’m scared card cause it was dark out and there was a noise. i grabbed his arm and he smiled at me. we ended up holding hands the rest of the night. he ended up walking ahead of me for a second and i said don’t leave me. he told me he never would. he would say little cute things like that. after i left he texted me and said that my hand felt amazing in his and that he had a great night. he told me he appreciated me being there for him. i told him whenever he needs me i’m here. went on another walk a few days later and this time he kissed me. when i left he called me and said he missed me already and wish we had more time to spend together. we talked all night. one night he told me i was perfect and between us it always will be. we used to talk all day, but the past few months he has been distant. we only talk at night now. but not every night. and it seems like it’s always sexual. we haven’t hooked up yet, but have talked about it. and every time we try to make plans to chill the next day he never texts me back with a time to meet up. i asked him if we’re ok, and if he actually did want to see me and he yea he does. we made plans for the next night after i got out of work. i again texted him and he never texted back. he texted me at 4 am saying he was sorry he didn’t hit me up to chill, and that he wanted to make it up to me. at this point i’m not getting my hopes up with seeing him. that was a week ago and i still haven’t seen him. at this point i feel like he doesn’t even like me anymore. i no that we aren’t together so i can’t expect to be any type of priority. should i ask him what’s up, and if he still feels the same way, or should i just back off and let him come to me? do you think he has moved on? bitte helfen! july 2, 2014, 10:32 am things are getting better. still working things out but i'm being patient and i keep reading your emails and the books i ordered. thanks for the help. i’m learning a lot. june 21, 2014, 10:35 pm al #6- his tongue is in your ear. june 21, 2014, 2:53 pm keke this is keke and ur are dumb if u let him put his tongue in ur ear shit i woukd let him lick my pussy ok dummy april 15, 2015, 2:27 pm jaz so i been dating this guy for about 5 months, in the start he was all about seeing me all the time we are now in a serious relationship and we’ve met eachothers families, he travels a lot for work… i’m just wishing he was more attentive as far as communicating more sometimes i feel like we are strangers like talk for about 5 mins a day we both have busy careers but after work. idk he hasn’t been in a relationship in over 5yrs and i’m the 1st girl he gave a chance to… he’s use to hanging with his friends and working… not making a woman his priority. i’m amazing to him i just want the same effort put forth. what do i do trying to have patience only because he not use to it but am i kidding myself? june 17, 2014, 4:27 pm middi hello jaz, i sense your pain and frustraion as i read your post. i would encourage you to talk with him, and let him know how you’re truly feeling. point out all of the good things that you love about him, and let him know that you appreciate him. remember men are more sensitive then us women..so tred carefully, but be 100% honest about how you feel. he sounds like a good guy…perhaps he’s not aware of how you are reallying feeling. let him know that you’re hurt that he’s spends more time with his friends and career than you. tell him to ‘put himself in your place’…”how would he feel it things were reverse?” since people are rasied differently and come from various walks of life…he may not be ‘aware’ of his actions. so let him know how you feel, and telll him *what he can do to make you feel more loved, etc. now i will throw this in here: he may not really be interested in you anymore, and just doesn’t want to hurt your feelings buy telling you he’s over you. he may have another girl; or it could just simply be that he has so much stress at work, that he needs to hang with the guys to relieve stress, and doesn’t want to bring that stress over to you. i only mention that because he only has 5 mins a day to talk to you??? that doesn’t sound right. no matter how stressed, or angry, etc., a person in a relationship is…they will speak more thatn 5 mins a day. if you care about somebody..you make the time..because you want to…period! but this next part is key: just state how your feel..do not guess/assume anything & do not put anywords in his mouth. because he might take one of your fears and use that as an excuss to end the realtionship. so inconclusion dear..be honest…don’t be afraid. it’s better you get this out in the open quickly so the problem can be remedied, or you can move on. if the latter is the case…fear not, you sound like a very caring and loving person..you will find your true love! peace and blessing :) june 21, 2014, 6:37 am jaz hey middi, we are actually doing great we spoke and yes he’s trying to get use to having someone, he actually been amazing after we spoke and he feared loosing me our love for eachother is growing daily 6months in and i think we are growing stronger thxxx! july 15, 2014, 3:35 pm middi great news! good luck and god bless the both of you. keep the lines of communication open! :d july 18, 2014, 7:49 pm shaz hi middi, i see you’ve got really good insight in dealing with relationship. i need your advice… i have been living with this guy for a year now. he asked me to move in with him after 6 months of dating. i’ve met all his family members, attended family gatherings, etc. we’re planning on getting married this christmas. what i don’t understand is, sometimes when i am on duty travels, he makes plans to travel to other cities and let’s me know like on the day or a day before his departure. i also realised that he doesn’t give me gifts or take me out or remember special occassions. the funny thing is he hasn’t met my family. he talks of meetng them and made an effort but one the day we got into an arguement and just forgot the whole idea. he never talks about it again. last time, i saw a booking he made to fly to brisbane for 5days and this is around the time that i get to do my next duty travel. he hasn’t told me about this trip yet. aren;t people living together in a relationship not supposed to keep secrets? i don’t understand this… does he really love me? if he doesn’t then why does he want me to live with him and marry him even… i don’t understand this! please help me understand this person… january 22, 2015, 6:52 pm brian did any of you women ever consider that a guy may like you, even love you but prefer to be social with his guy friends? or even gasp! with no one? june 26, 2014, 3:21 pm middi yes brian, but there is a big difference between spending time with your friends socially, and totally ignoring your mate. for example; if he’s spending every weekend with his friends and only calling his girlfriend to talk for 5 mins a day with no face time(meaning meeting in person, not an apple device)…then there’s a problem. at this point she can either continue to be ignored, or talk to him honestly about her feelings (if indeed as you mentioned ‘he loves her’), or she can leave him and find someone who will spend time with her. because let’s face it, you date someone to what? spend time with them right? it seems for the lady i was trying to help, something’s not right, and a simple conversation with the one you love, would shed light on the situation. i hope it works out for them both. peace and blessings june 27, 2014, 11:21 pm jaz brian, when a man is truly interested no one can keep them away not even friends, most of his friends are in relationships as well. i agree he should always have his space and his boy time i would never take that away from him… healthy relationships require that. i would prefer my man wanting to be with me if not i think there is an issue no? july 15, 2014, 3:38 pm patricia i’ve been with this guy off an on now for a year.we lived together for 9 months. then he broke up with me. we wrote engaged he told me he was moving on and with another girl two days later. well that was in jan she went to jail in in april hr was at my door step that same say she went to jail we’ve been together off an on ever since we stayed together for one month as friends with benefits then i told him i couldn’t do it anymore and i didn’t want to see him. well three weeks went by he started calling and texting me again we got back together this time and we was just going tsee what happened ok until know we had a fight four days ago and i having talked to him told him to leave me alone i’m scared i’m being used until she gets out of jail which will be in about 4 more months if i knew he wouldn’t leave me as soon as she gets out i could be happy but i don’t know that and i’m scared love him because i think he’s using mr for sex. told him i cant handle being with him one month and being happy then one week sad then one month happy its to much back and forth i can’t handlevitvno more he needs to decide what he wants. and who he wants i’m so miserable without him my heart aching for him and i mids him so much don’t know should i give up or fight to be with him i have four months left with him irvwithout him i’m so hurt and confused as to what to do june 15, 2014, 8:47 pm middi my dear patricia, leave him. please trust me on this. he is using you. you’re instinct is right. listen to your “inner voice” it will never steer you wrong! i know it’s hard when you’re in love, but you deserve to be loved in return! an off & on relationship is no relationship at all. if he truly cared for you, he would stick by you and try to work things out. or at the very least..be honest about his feelings. and this ‘friends w/ benefits’ thing…there is no such thing! because a real friend would have more respect (sing it areatha! ;) for you and would never even think of using a friend period. i do beleive he is using you for ***, comfort, company etc., and is buying time until the other girl gets out. and he’s probably using her too! you see..”hurt people, to hurtful things.” he needs to do some inner healing work, but that’s not your place to help him do it. you see, a person who is well on the inside would never disrespect another human being the way you are being disrespected. i believe you are a beautiful, caring, loving person…put some of that love on yourself! ask yourself “why do i tolerate such blatant disrespect from this man?” love your self 1st, talk to somebody, heal yourself from the ‘inside out’…and once you do..you will attract the right kind of man into your life. i know you can do it! peace and blessing be unto you! june 21, 2014, 6:21 am nol thanks, for that, middi… very well said!!! :) january 22, 2015, 6:11 pm arabia asia is right. i ran into one of those a few weeks ago and he almost did my head in. i had to take some pretty hard drugs to get over him, but get over him i did, and fast – in just a few days. the experience has messed me up good though. to do it i had to become a sociopath myself and stop feeling normal human affection. future guys i meet may suffer due to this as i do not think i am able to feel towards males ever again. since the “i’m into you oh no i’m not haha” guy? i’ve turned into someone just like him and have this burning desire to go out and start leading men on and teasing them to flip it on them like this guy did, and cause a lot of destruction :) june 14, 2014, 10:38 pm middi my dearest arabia, please do not let evil men rob you of love, and a life full of happiness! yes there are bad men out there..but there are more good men then bad..that’s why this world (as crazy as it has become) is still in one piece. the good will always outlast the bad. please do not bring your self to a low level. you are better than that! plus, seducing men, and then ‘flippin’ it on the will get you killed. remember you a still a women. also know that women are emotionally, in intuitively stronger, and smarter then men. rise above the hate, fear, and anger you have, and shine like the beautiful bright star you are! as i mentioned in an earlier post : sometimes we “attract” bad things into our lives, because we haven’t dealt with certian ‘hurtful’ things in our past. somethings we may not even be aware of. so you have to ask yourslef : “why did i attract this person into my life? what did like about him? what did he give me that i felt i needed from him? although ‘sociopaths’ maybe hard to spot, there are always signs like body language & intuition. we tend to ignore the red flags when we really like someone, or are lonenly or have low self-esteem. the simple fact is that you allowed this person into your life..you attracted that person to you. i’m not blaming you. but the key is to find out why? then you can do the inner work and heal yourself from the ‘inside out” and attract the people that you really need and the ones that will truly love you! keep your head up! don’t let the wrong doings of others ‘taint’ your beautiful soul! peace and blessings! june 21, 2014, 6:58 am useni i like newmode becouse it talk about the real fact about relationship may 22, 2014, 1:13 pm asia sociopaths can do all this and not really like ypu. november 7, 2013, 7:21 pm luke and shy guys won’t, even when they’re interested, having said that the way shy guys desplay interest makes them seem awkward and creepy, so girls don’t like them. may 25, 2014, 10:18 pm middi hello luke, i can understand what you mean. but everyone at one point or another has to find the confidence to over come that ‘shy/awkward’ state. it comes down to real ‘self-esteem’. some people get it at home at an early age, others get it at school, some from mentors, and the rest through ‘trial and error’. the bottom line is; there are so many ways to get help and information on dating. but it takes time, patience and practice, and some people aren’t even willing to try. shy people need to be encouraged, and supported by true friends, family, etc. but they have to want to change 1st peace and love to you! june 21, 2014, 7:06 am laura yes, but they can’t keep that fake mask for long.eventually, their true ugly face will show. june 17, 2014, 8:30 am middi yes laura, you are so right! and that’s no matter how much we may like a person, you have to take your time, listen to your ‘inner voice’ (intuition) and acknowledge the red flags. there are a lot of lonely people out there starved for love and attention..and that could lead them to chose, accept and deal with the wrong people. be brave my friends…real love is just around the corner…but you have to think positive, work on yourself, and be patient in love. a lot of us claim to want the perfect mate…but are you yourself perfect? are you what the other person is looking for? the check list that you have for your ideal mate…do you have all of those qualities as well? if so, great…good luck. if not…”how can you ask for something, that your yourself can’t give?” peace and love june 21, 2014, 7:13 am brian yes but what you don’t understand is that they don’t care if you find out, by that time they have already notched their headboard and they are done with you anyway. june 26, 2014, 5:05 pm middi my dearest brian, all we can do is learn from our mistakes. the biggest mistake is sleeping with someone too fast. yes, we all want love, and we all want the feeling that comes from true ‘intimacy”. but like you said; some people will play the game until they get what they want. only by withholding yourself, and taking the time to truly get to know someone, will you weed out the fakers. the 90 day rule will weed out the bad seeds, so that the good seed will stick! that means, date without *** for 90 days, and if that person is still around, without pressuring you for ***, then you may be off to a good start towards a healthy, loving relationship. you see, those that seek only *** or as you said ‘a notch on their headboard’, aren’t brave enough to seek a loving relationship. they aren’t brave enough to face the fact that they want real love. they don’t know how to get it or accept it, because they have past issues that they are too scared to deal with. so they go for the ‘easy feel good fix’, then move on to the next one. they are so hurt and angry at themselves, they they don’t believe they need love. so they take anything to numb the pain. i don’t want to get into the psychology of it all, but learn from this. you deserve love, and we all need love. but love is sacrificing. and most people have a hard time with this. think about your best friend, or a close family member. when they **** you off, you work it out right? you all of a sudden become patient and forgiving. it’s not so easy to do with strangers right? Warum? because you took the time to get to know your friends and family members. so take time to get to know the next person you date. and don’t feel bad if you get dumped for not putting out early on. that only means that you just saved yourself from getting hurt/played, and you are also saving yourself for the one that will love you for life! have patience my friend. love is on the way! peace and blessings june 27, 2014, 11:43 pm brian i agree, and you just gave them the recipe. but it doesn’t take a sociopaths to simply be a hound dog, in fact i think most men for at least some period in their life play the field, and probably try to present any face you want to see in order to take you to bed. june 26, 2014, 5:24 pm middi the 90 day rule will ‘un-mask’ the bad ones. plus lots of talking, asking questions, getting to know the other person and key: get to know their friends, family, co-workers. reading body language is key. looking in the eyes, etc. you see, people with ‘something to hide’, will avoid personal questions, won’t talk about family, won’t introduce you to friends, won’t talk about their jobs, etc. even if they make all of this up and seem believable, if keep pressing, the lies will slip them up and the true will be revealed. the signs are there! and even if i’m giving you some sage advice, or ‘play by play’ info for bad folks to use..it still won’t matter, because evil never hides for very long. they only get away with it because you think you’re in love, you ignore the red flags. introduce them to your friends and family, and they will spot the fakers too! see, when people think they are in love, they just want to be with only that person, all the time. you need your friend and family to be the objective view; to see and pick up on the things that you’re to blind to see when your think your in love. common sense is greatly lacking on the world today, but never fear, as long as your are breathing, you can learn and grow. to your happiness peace june 28, 2014, 12:00 am brian middi i could not agree with you more on the 90 day rule. if you don’t want to be used you need to know how young men think. i have tried to tell my daughter this but young girls seem to think they know better than an old man :). or maybe she listened but just didn’t let me know she did. july 1, 2014, 12:45 pm