Fragen Sie einen Mann: Will er mit mir ausgehen oder nicht?

bell hilfe! Mein Mitbewohner und ich haben diese verrückte Anziehungskraft und Chemie und haben vor 5 Monaten angefangen, uns anzuschließen. In letzter Zeit habe ich das Gefühl, dass die Dinge etwas intensiver werden. Ich vermute einige gegenseitige Gefühle, möchte ihn aber nicht direkt fragen. Am Anfang hatten wir ein paar Verabredungen, dann sagte er, er wollte eigentlich nicht 'verabreden', also war ich verwirrt, aber es ging mir gut, als ich gerade aus einer Beziehung herauskam. Also haben wir immer wieder Spaß gehabt. In letzter Zeit war er immer kuscheliger, küsste meine Stirn, hielt mich fester usw. und stellte mich seinen Freunden, seinen Mitarbeitern vor, und alle wussten bereits von mir. er gab zu, dass er allen von mir erzählt hatte. Dann gehe ich noch ein paar Mal zum Abendessen aus, bringe mir das Schießen bei usw. und wir haben immer Spaß. Jetzt bin ich verwirrt, ob er ernstere Gefühle hat, aber gleichzeitig hat er nichts gesagt. Wir leben zusammen und er hat keine Mädchen hergebracht und ich auch nicht. was soll ich machen? Ich möchte das Boot nicht rocken, ich fühle mich wohl, wie die Dinge sind, aber gleichzeitig bin ich so verwirrt! 7. Januar 2020, 23:40 Uhr shipra Da ist dieser Junge, mit dem ich die High School besucht habe. jetzt nach 6 Jahren ist er immer noch in Kontakt mit mir. In diesen 6 Jahren haben wir kaum ein- oder zweimal im Jahr geredet. aber jetzt seit einer Woche kontaktiert er mich täglich und wir unterhalten uns ungefähr zwei Stunden lang. Er ist immer so höflich, dass er kitschig ist. Er deutet immer an, eine Beziehung zu wollen, hat aber nicht offen gefragt. Jetzt bin ich eine sehr zielorientierte Person. Vor ihm habe ich noch nie mehr als ein paar Sätze mit einem Jungen gesprochen. und ich mag es mit ihm zu reden, aber jetzt möchte ich mich auf mein Studium konzentrieren. Es ist auch eine Art Ferngespräch (wir befinden uns in verschiedenen Zeitzonen, wie jetzt ist es für ihn 9.30 Uhr). Jetzt bin ich verwirrt darüber, was ich tun soll. ob ich weitermachen soll oder ob ich ihm klar sagen soll, dass es Zeitverschwendung ist. weil ich meine Aufgabe nicht rechtzeitig erledigen kann. Ich weiß nicht, was ich tun soll. 13. August 2018, 9:32 Uhr Jessica Mein Schwarm ist ein Sophmore in der High School und ich bin ein Feashmen. Ich mag ihn wirklich. Normalerweise nehme ich seinen Hut und renne zum Unterricht, aber er findet mich immer. er wird nach seinem Hut zurück fragen und ich werde nein sagen, also muss er ihn mir aus den Händen ringen. Ich warte immer auf ihn in der Schule, damit ich ihn umarmen kann. Der Tag, an dem ich anfing, ihn zu mögen, war bei der Heimkehr. Ich weinte, weil mein und das Lied meines Ex-Freundes aufkam und ich durch die Toiletten nach hinten rannte. Mein Freund kam zurück und fragte mich, warum ich weinte. Ich erzählte ihr von dem Lied und sie machte mich fertig. Dann kam mein Schwarm herein und fragte, wen er töten müsse. Mein Freund erzählte ihm, warum ich weinte und er bat mich zu tanzen. Ich sagte ja und er sagte mir, ich sehe wunderschön aus. Er war sehr nett und süß zu mir, selbst wenn ich seine Sachen nehmen würde. Bis zu meinem Geburtstag alles im Süden. Er ist manchmal temperamentvoll, aber ich weiß, dass er ein gutes Herz hat, aber es ist hart für ihn, es zu zeigen. An meinem Geburtstag beschloss ich, ihm zu erzählen, wie ich mich fühlte. Seitdem hat er nicht mehr auf meine Nachrichten oder Anrufe geantwortet. Ich möchte wirklich wissen, ob er sauer auf mich ist oder einfach nicht mehr mit mir rumhängen will. Auch mein Freund fragte ihn, wie er sich fühle und er schrie sie nur an. Sie erzählte mir, was er getan hatte und sagte dann, dass er ein wenig daneben zu sein schien, als würde er nicht er selbst sein. kannst du mir bitte helfen??? Ich bin so verwirrt 5. März 2016, 16:24 Uhr aj Ich habe eine Frage, ob sich ein Mann für mich interessiert. Also ging ich letzte Nacht mit meinen Freunden zu einer Hausparty und traf diesen Typen. er schien an mir interessiert zu sein, weil er mit mir sprach, mich berührte, nahe war und mir sogar einen Kuss gab, der zu einem intensiveren Küssen führte. Ich interessierte mich auch für ihn. Dann kam er mit mir und meinen Freunden in meine Wohnung zurück und wir chillten und redeten. Er saß bei mir, hielt meine Hand und wir sprachen über uns. Er fragte, ob es in Ordnung sei, wenn er bleiben würde und ich sagte ja und er lächelte. Ich ging dann schnell in mein Zimmer zurück, um mich umzuziehen, und als ich zurückkam, wollten er und seine Freunde gehen. Ich habe versucht, seinen Namen zu sagen und ihn zu fragen, warum er geht und er würde mir nicht antworten und ging weiter. Also ließ ich ihn sein, weil ich nicht wusste, was ich tun sollte. Ich dachte, wir fangen an, uns zu verstehen, und dann geht er, ohne sich zu verabschieden. Ich weiß nicht, was ich tun soll. schreibe ich ihm und frage nach letzter Nacht? oder was? Ich mag ihn wirklich und möchte sehen, ob etwas zwischen uns ist. Er hat so viele Anzeichen dafür gemacht, dass er sich für mich interessiert und mich mag, aber ich weiß es nicht. Bitte hilf mir! 1. November 2015, 12:42 Uhr vivian Ich habe diesen Typen durch einen Freund kennengelernt. In der ersten gemeinsamen Nacht ist nichts passiert. Wir haben Kontakte ausgetauscht und sind gereist, als ich zurückkam Ich habe versucht anzurufen, aber ohne Erfolg stellte die Nummer keine Verbindung her. Nach einiger Zeit kontaktierte er mich und wir schlossen uns an und liebten uns auch. Nach dem ersten gemeinsamen Liebesspiel gab es nicht viele Anrufe oder Texte, wie in, in denen er jemals beschäftigt war, also ich lass ihn sein, er versucht immer, mich zu kontaktieren, wenn er mich sehen will und das hat mich glücklich gemacht. Aber plötzlich änderten sich die Dinge, als seine Einstellung zu mir, als ich mich beschwerte, entschuldigte er sich und sagte, er versuche, seine Arbeit zu entlasten Sein Kopf und damit die Dinge zwischen uns funktionieren. Nachdem sich die Geschichte wieder geändert hatte, nannte er mich einen Betrug und dass er nicht mehr mit mir sprechen möchte und während dieser Zeit war ich schon schwanger, aber ich erzählte ihm davon, aber Er nannte es ein Betrugsbaby und dass er keine weitere Kommunikation mit mir will. Ich lasse ihn sein, dann treffen wir uns bei seinen Freunden y er war mit einem Mädchen dort und als er mich sah, kam er und umarmte mich und begrüßte mich, als ob nichts passieren würde. Natürlich war ich wütend und ich versuche mich nicht darum zu kümmern oder meine Wut über mich kommen zu lassen. Ich bleibe allein mit Als mein Telefon an einem ruhigen Ort war, kam er wieder und fragte, wie es mir gehe. Ich antwortete ihm und sagte, es gehe mir gut. Ich verließ den Veranstaltungsort, weil meine Eifersucht anfing anzugeben. Und seitdem war er und sie zusammen und es gab keine Gespräche oder Anrufe mehr Was mache ich, weil ich ihn wirklich mag und er immer noch in mich verliebt ist? oder einfach nur versuchen, mich eifersüchtiger zu machen, um zu wissen, wie ich wirklich mit ihm umgehe? Bitte helfen Sie 10. März 2015, 23:46 Uhr Jenna Grace Ich weiß nicht, was ich tun soll, und das klingt vielleicht ein bisschen verrückt, aber es ist alles nur durcheinander. Denken Sie also daran, dass ich noch in der Mittelschule bin, während Sie dies lesen. Also traf ich diesen Typen, als ich in die sechste Klasse ging (er ging in die siebte) und ich wohnte in seinem Seehaus, weil unsere Familien unsere Freunde waren. Nun, unsere Eltern hatten Leute bei uns und so saßen wir ungefähr vier Stunden oben zusammen und dann fingen wir beide an, uns zu mögen und es dauerte die ganze Woche, aber dann ging ich und es verstummte irgendwie. Also haben wir in den letzten Jahren ein Jahr lang SMS geschrieben und ich fange an zu denken, dass er mich vielleicht nicht einmal als Freund mag, aber dann hängen wir rum und mögen es geht zurück zu dem Punkt, an dem ich denke, dass er es könnte wie ich, weil wir hin und her flirten werden. Anfang dieses Jahres hatten wir drei Tage lang eine SMS geschrieben und geredet, um wieder näher zu kommen, und dann fragte er mich und es war ein Schock für mich und ich habe immer noch Angst, ihn zu treffen, weil er die Klasse über mir ist, aber wie meine Freunde sagen, es ist egal. Wie auch immer, selbst als er mich fragte, mochte ich ihn, aber ich antwortete fünf Minuten lang nicht, nachdem er mir gesagt hatte, dass er es ernst meinte, also sagte er, nein, ich mache nur Spaß mit dir, ich wollte sehen, was du sagen würdest und wie ich es anziehe Ich weiß nicht wirklich, was er damit gemeint hat. und jetzt sind wir wieder an dem Punkt, an dem wir uns nur unterhalten, wenn wir abhängen und alle meine Freunde sagen, ich sollte ihm sagen, wie ich mich fühle, aber an diesem Punkt weiß ich nicht, was ich tun soll, denn selbst wenn er wüsste, dass ich ihn mag und er mochte mich, ich würde nicht mit ihm ausgehen wollen, weil wir so enge Freunde der Familie sind, dass es unangenehm wäre, wenn wir uns trennen würden. Hilfe bitte! 11. Februar 2015, 23:41 Uhr Peyton Carlson Okay, mein Ex. Wir sind Freunde und alle, aber er versteht nicht, wie schwer es ist, nur mit ihm befreundet zu sein. Wir waren ungefähr 1,3 Jahre zusammen und ich liebe ihn. Ich sehe ihn fast jeden Tag und erst neulich ging er auf mich zu und umarmte mich sehr. Er behauptet, dass es eine Umarmung eines Freundes war, aber es schien nicht so. Ich habe später mit ihm darüber gesprochen und er gab offen zu, dass er mich gern umarmte. Er sagte, dass er nicht ganz über mich hinweg war. Was kann ich tun, um ihn zurückzubekommen? bitte helfen! 7. Februar 2015, 12:59 Uhr siobhan Meine Situation ist also… dieser Typ, den ich seit meinem 17. Lebensjahr kenne. Wir haben uns online getroffen, nachdem ich mich von meinem ersten Freund getrennt hatte . Wir hatten eine Beute. im gegenseitigen Einvernehmen. alles war gut. Dies war das Arrangement für zwei Jahre, aber natürlich haben wir im Laufe der Zeit Gespräche entwickelt, manchmal sehr tief und wir sind jetzt Freunde. Wir unterhielten uns regelmäßig und trafen uns manchmal sogar nur zum Plaudern. Ich wusste, dass ich anfing ihn zu mögen. Mein Dating-Leben ging nirgendwo hin, und sein und ich nahm den Mut zusammen, ihn zu befragen. Er lehnte dies freundlicherweise aufgrund meines Alters ab (es gibt einen Unterschied von 7 Jahren), also war ich in Ordnung und wir machten einfach weiter wie gewohnt. Ungefähr zweieinhalb Jahre nach unserem Arrangement hatte ich einen anderen Freund. Das Arrangement endete, aber wir sprachen immer noch miteinander. 3 Jahre später habe ich ein Baby, aber keinen Kerl. Trotzdem trafen er und ich uns nach der Trennung wieder. Er kam gegen 10 Uhr in meine Wohnung. Wir sprachen, hatten Spaß und ich durfte ihn massieren. Um fair zu sein, war es das intimste, das wir jemals miteinander gewesen waren. Er ging um 4 Uhr morgens und als er ging, gab er mir einen ziemlich leidenschaftlichen Snog. was er noch nie getan hat. Die Regeln des Arrangements waren kein Küssen, das er machte. er hat seine Regel gebrochen. was soll ich denken 19. Januar 2015, 20:43 Uhr siobhan Oh, ich bin jetzt 22 19. Januar 2015, 20:46 Uhr meera hier ist dieser Typ, der ein Jahr lang Klassenkamerad war, aber wir haben in dieser Zeit nie gesprochen. Nachdem wir die Schule beendet und das College besucht hatten, wurden wir über eine soziale Website Freunde und sind seit 5 Jahren gute Freunde. In seiner Klasse ist ein Freund von mir, der während der Schulzeit mein sehr enger Freund war, und da wir uns kannten, wurden wir gute Freunde und wir Mädels pflegten uns mit ihm zu ärgern. Am Ende entwickelte ich Gefühle für diesen Kerl und im Laufe der Zeit hörten wir Leute auf, uns auf Konferenzen zu unterhalten und zusammen abzuhängen, aber wir blieben ununterbrochen miteinander in Kontakt. Dieser Typ und ich waren von Anfang an schüchtern umeinander. Wir haben nie viel gesprochen, auch wenn wir uns gegenseitig eine SMS geschrieben haben. aber er war ein sehr guter Freund und meine Gefühle für ihn vertieften sich. Ich hörte Gerüchte, dass beide in einer Beziehung waren, aber ich vertraute ihnen, dass sie mir sagen würden, wenn so etwas passieren würde. da sie mir so etwas nie erzählt haben, habe ich vor einigen Monaten meine Gefühle für ihn gestanden. Er sagte, er sei jetzt nicht bereit für eine Beziehung, da er richtig lernen musste und ich das Thema nie wieder ansprach und wir Freunde waren aber wenn auch nicht so nah wie vorher. aber vor kurzem fing dieser Typ wieder an, mir nahe zu kommen und flirtete viel. Er plante ein paar Mittagessen (kein Date) und einmal einen Film (wieder kein Date), aber er sagte ab. Ich habe ihm nie gezeigt, dass ich von seiner Verhaltensweise enttäuscht war. Das Flirten ging weiter und vor ein paar Tagen fragte er mich nach einem Date. Ich war super aufgeregt, als unsere Beziehung endlich einen Kurs nahm, aber seine früheren Absagen machten mir Angst. Als ich dachte, er hätte das Datum am Vortag abgesagt und diesmal habe ich nicht so getan, als wäre ich nicht enttäuscht, aber gleichzeitig habe ich nicht gezeigt, wie sehr er mich verletzt hat. Er versuchte ein ungezwungenes Gespräch zu führen, aber ich konnte es nicht. Ich liebe ihn so sehr und ich weiß nicht, was ich jetzt tun soll ..! und ich verstehe nicht, warum er mit mir flirtet, mich nach einem Date fragt und dann absagt, wenn er weiß, wie ich mit ihm umgehe !! bitte hilf mir !! 7. Dezember 2014, 3:19 Uhr Maria Also habe ich diesen Typen vor einem Jahr getroffen. Anscheinend haben wir uns ein paar Mal mit Freunden getroffen und wurden ein paar Mal vorgestellt. aber ich kann mich nicht erinnern. Ich habe ihn im August besser kennengelernt. wir hängen als Freunde ab, wir verstehen uns wirklich ... und plötzlich wurde uns klar, dass wir uns wirklich mögen und dass dies eine Art Verabredung war. Eines Nachts hat er mich geküsst, aber wir haben beide Probleme mit der öffentlichen Zuneigung, trotzdem küsse ich ihn zurück. und wir sprachen weiter über Facebook- und TXT-Nachrichten. dann begannen wir uns zu sehen, als er plötzlich distanziert wurde. Ich sprach ihn darüber an und er erklärte, dass dies daran liegt, dass er das Gefühl hatte, in eine Beziehung zu geraten. Ich denke daran, dass seine frühere Beziehung von vier Jahren im letzten April endete. Er sagte, er habe sich um mich gekümmert und mich gemocht ... also sagte ich zu ihm, dass es in Ordnung ist, dass wir es langsam angehen können. es ging normal weiter. aber andererseits distanzierte er sich und wenn wir mit unserer Gruppe von Freunden ausgehen (da wir in derselben Gruppe sind), wenn er ein wenig trinkt, ist er überall auf mir und kann sich nicht helfen. Diese Situation verwirrte mich, also ging ich wieder auf ihn zu und wir beschlossen, dass wir aufhören würden, uns alle zusammen zu sehen, aber dass wir immer noch Freunde sind. er sagte, dass er nur alleine sein wollte und er war traurig, weil er mich mag und mit mir sein will, aber nicht jetzt. In dieser Nacht blieb er drüben, nichts passierte, aber er hielt und küsste meine Stirn die ganze Nacht. Ein paar Wochen später passierte mir etwas, das mir Angst machte, in meinem Haus zu bleiben. Er hörte davon von Freunden, besuchte mich und brachte mich zurück zu seinem Haus, also bin ich nicht allein. wieder passierte nichts, aber wir löffelten die ganze Nacht. danach wurde er noch distanzierter, nicht einmal als Freund, überhaupt keine Kommunikation. Ich habe ihn nur mit unseren Freunden gesehen. Ich habe wirklich ein Gefühl von ihm, das habe ich ihm offensichtlich nicht gesagt, da ich nicht gerne über solche Dinge rede. aber ich habe mich noch nie so gefühlt. Als wir uns sahen, fühlte ich mich frei und als er mich umarmte, fühlte ich mich sicher. Ich kann sehen, dass er mich mag, denn wenn wir unterwegs sind und andere Leute mit mir flirten, starrt er aus der Ferne und manchmal kommt er herüber, um die Interaktion zu unterbrechen. seitdem war ich mit diesem anderen ein paar mal zusammen und obwohl ich ihn wirklich mag und gerne etwas mit ihm machen möchte. Es fühlt sich nicht so an, als wäre ich mit dem ersten Mann zusammen. und wegen unserer gemeinsamen Freunde, wenn ich anfange, mit dem neuen Mann auszugehen, wenn der erste uns sieht, wird es das Ende sein? Irgendwo in mir habe ich noch Hoffnung für uns. Bitte helfen Sie x 10. November 2014, 8:33 Uhr amabell Hallo, ich habe gehört, dieser Typ steht auf mich und er ist jünger als ich. Ich werde gerade 22 und er wird gerade 18 Jahre alt. Jeder bei der Arbeit denkt, ich bin heiß und unschuldig, also wollen sie alle mit mir ausgehen oder mit mir schlafen, aber nicht mit mir reden. Der 18-Jährige ist sehr ruhig mit anderen, genau wie ich. er versucht von Zeit zu Zeit ein kleines Gespräch mit mir zu führen. Beispiel 'Hallo, wie geht es dir heute?' usw. Dann versucht er tatsächlich, mich einmal zu fragen, und er hatte Probleme, also helfe ich ihm und frage ihn selbst: 'Ich gehe dieses Wochenende ins Kino, willst du kommen?' Ich frage nach der Uhrzeit und er sagte: 'Ich weiß nicht, ob es dein Tag ist.' Schließlich gingen wir raus und schauten uns einen Film an. Er sagte, ich sehe nett und anders aus. Er wollte einen Gruselfilm sehen, aber ich sagte ihm, ich wollte sehen, was wir diesen anderen. Er wollte die Tickets nicht bezahlen, aber er tat es und er sagte, du bekommst das Popcorn. Am Ende, als wir draußen waren, sagte er, dass er es bereits gesehen habe, aber solange ich es genieße, sei es in Ordnung. Nach den Filmen gehen wir draußen herum und gehen dann Kaffee holen und er stellt mir Fragen. Um 12 Uhr morgens bekam er eine Nachricht von seinen Freunden, dass sie abhängen wollen und damit er nach Hause geht, hielt er sich mit ihnen in Verbindung und schließlich er Ich habe mich über sie geärgert, aber wir sind 30 Minuten später losgefahren, um den Bus zu nehmen. er sagt dann, dass ich mich zu sehr anziehe, aber dass er es mag, nur dass er sich zu ausgezogen und schlicht fühlt. Wir treffen uns bei der Arbeit und hängen ab, wann immer wir können. Er war immer schüchtern, er berührt mich, meine Schulter, ich berühre ihn und er zieht sich zurück. Seine Freunde machen ihm ein Kompliment und lachen manchmal, wenn wir zusammen sind. Ich hörte sie auch zu ihm sagen, dass sie ihn wegen mir respektieren. Das zweite Mal, wenn wir im Einkaufszentrum rumhängen, sagt er mir, dass er zu einer bestimmten Zeit gehen muss, weil er zu einem Konzert gehen muss. Wir hängen immer noch rum und am Ende versucht er ein bisschen näher bei mir zu sein und er sitzt vor mir, dann geht er, weil er gehen muss. dann ärgerte ich mich und er bemerkte und er sagte 'oh nein ich fühle mich schlecht.' Wir reden immer noch bei der Arbeit und alles andere als zu wissen, dass er angefangen hat, mich vorzuführen. Er hat mich vor seinen Freunden laufen lassen, damit er mich nicht sehen kann. Er hasst den Bremsraum, aber er geht stattdessen dorthin, als sie viele Mitarbeiter dort waren . Zeit vergehen und wir txt noch. aber siehe ich txt ihn und er antwortet 2 Tage später manchmal 4 Tage. manchmal antwortet er nie. Ich muss immer zuerst txt. dann dachte ich, dass er nur versucht hat, mich vorzuführen, also ärgerte ich mich über ihn und wollte irgendwie nicht mit ihm sprechen, also fragte er, warum ich verrückt war und ich konnte nicht sagen, na ja, ich denke, du benutzt mich. Also habe ich ihm nur gesagt, dass ich Stress habe. dann versucht er immer noch, bei der Arbeit zusammen zu sein. Irgendwann bin ich darüber hinweggekommen, weil er gezeigt hat, dass er es mag, wenn er sich Sorgen macht, dass er etwas falsch gemacht hat. Ich gehe wieder mit ihm ins Einkaufszentrum und sage ihm am Ende, was zwischen uns los ist. Er war überrascht. Stellen Sie mir dieselbe Frage erneut und antworten Sie dann: „Oh, wir haben nur Spaß.“ Ich spiele es cool bei der Arbeit, aber ich hielt Abstand. dann vergeht die Zeit. er sagt mir, dass er heute operiert wird. Ich sage ihm, okay, lass uns vorher abhängen, aber unsere Zeitpläne stimmen nicht überein. Ich schreibe ihm 3 Tage zuvor, wenn er vor seiner Operation gearbeitet hat, und er hat nie geantwortet, also habe ich ihm Glück gesagt und pass auf dich auf. Er arbeitet einen Tag zuvor und er schreibt mir, oh ich arbeite heute, aber gehe früh. Ich bin mit Managern beschäftigt und er kommt, um sich zu verabschieden, stößt mich aber nur an. dann txt ich ihm 'keine Abschiedsumarmung', antwortet er, du siehst beschäftigt aus, aber ich werde versuchen dich morgen früh zu sehen. ' Ich frage, ob er an seinem Operationstag arbeitet, aber ich bekomme keine. Am nächsten Arbeitstag erzählt er mir, dass seine Praxis für die nächste Woche verlegt wurde. Ich wusste, dass es eine Lüge war, da mir gesagt wurde, dass er am Freitag (es war Dienstag) zu einem Konzert mit einem Kollegen gehen würde. Er war depressiv und versuchte es wieder gut zu machen und bat mich auszugehen. Ich sagte ihm, okay, am nächsten Tag bin ich weg und du bist weg, lass uns abhängen. am nächsten tag wechsle ich und gehe zum ort. dann txt ich ihm, ich könnte zu spät kommen und er antwortet, dass er es tun wird. Ich sagte ihm, da wir beide den Bus nehmen, wir uns an dieser Station treffen, antwortet er, oh meine Mutter hat mich dazu gebracht, Aufgaben zu erledigen, seit ich aufgewacht bin, ich werde zu spät kommen. Ich sagte ihm kein Problem, txt mir, wenn du kannst. dann 20 min txt ich ihm, dass ich es leid bin zu warten, damit ich wieder nach Hause gehe. he txt, ich weiß, dass du wütend werden wirst, aber ich glaube nicht, dass ich es schaffen würde, selbst wenn ich weiß, was ich nicht kann. Ich sage, wenn etwas Unerwartetes auftauchte, hätte er die Zeit verschieben sollen, mich aber nicht umsonst dorthin bringen sollen. er sagte, es tut ihm leid. später versuche ich cool zu spielen und frage ihn, ob er am nächsten Tag arbeitet und er nicht. Dann, 3 Tage später, sagt er, ich arbeite am Samstag, meinem letzten Tag vor der Operation. Ich bin immer noch verrückt, aber ich spreche mit ihm. Dann sage ich ihm, oh viel Glück bei der Operation und ich sage ihm, oh, lass uns ins Kino gehen nach der Arbeit, um meine Beförderung zu feiern. dann antwortet er mit oh ja, ich weiß nicht, was ich für 3 Stunden tun werde, da ich später als er rauskomme. dann versucht er meine Augen zu meiden, wenn ich spreche und bewegt sich viel hin und her. dann umarmt er mich fest und sagt dann 'okay, das ist genug', während er meine Haare berührt. dann geht er. In dieser Nacht habe ich ihm geschrieben, oh, die Filme waren großartig. und wir machen Smalltalk und sagen mir dann, dass er gehen muss und mich später txt. Ich sagte ihm viel Glück, dann am nächsten Tag an seinem Operationstag txt ich ihm viel Glück, am nächsten Tag txt ich ihm, wie es war, dann 3 Tage später, wie es dir ging? In der nächsten Woche machte ich ein kleines einseitiges Smalltalk darüber, was ich vorhatte. Ich hatte nicht erwartet, dass er sofort antworten würde, aber er sagte, er würde 2 Wochen unterwegs sein. Ich höre nach 2 Wochen auf, ihm eine SMS zu schreiben. Ich habe gehört, dass er die ersten 2 schlecht war und dann ging es ihm gut und er verbrachte seine Zeit mit Videospielen. Während dieser Zeit vor seiner Operation tut er so, als wolle er etwas und zieht sich dann zurück. Sogar seine Freunde sagen, er mag mich. Also tut er so, als wolle er etwas mit mir, aber wenn ich auf seine Signale antworte, zieht er sich zurück. Ich verstehe seine Signale nicht. 3. November 2014, 11:50 Uhr amabell Hallo, ich habe gehört, dieser Typ steht auf mich und er ist jünger als ich. Ich werde gerade 22 und er wird gerade 18 Jahre alt. Jeder bei der Arbeit denkt, ich bin heiß und unschuldig, also wollen sie alle mit mir ausgehen oder mit mir schlafen, aber nicht mit mir reden. Der 18-Jährige ist sehr ruhig mit anderen, genau wie ich. er versucht von Zeit zu Zeit ein kleines Gespräch mit mir zu führen. Beispiel 'Hallo, wie geht es dir heute?' usw. Dann versucht er tatsächlich, mich einmal zu fragen, und er hatte Probleme, also helfe ich ihm und frage ihn selbst: 'Ich gehe dieses Wochenende ins Kino, willst du kommen?' Ich frage nach der Uhrzeit und er sagte: 'Ich weiß nicht, ob es dein Tag ist.' Schließlich gingen wir raus und schauten uns einen Film an. Er sagte, ich sehe nett und anders aus. Er wollte einen Gruselfilm sehen, aber ich sagte ihm, ich wollte sehen, was wir diesen anderen. Er wollte die Tickets nicht bezahlen, aber er tat es und er sagte, du bekommst das Popcorn. Am Ende, als wir draußen waren, sagte er, dass er es bereits gesehen habe, aber solange ich es genieße, sei es in Ordnung. Nach den Filmen gehen wir draußen herum und gehen dann Kaffee holen und er stellt mir Fragen. Um 12 Uhr morgens bekam er eine Nachricht von seinen Freunden, dass sie abhängen wollen und damit er nach Hause geht, hielt er sich mit ihnen in Verbindung und schließlich er Ich habe mich über sie geärgert, aber wir sind 30 Minuten später losgefahren, um den Bus zu nehmen. er sagt dann, dass ich mich zu sehr anziehe, aber dass er es mag, nur dass er sich zu ausgezogen und schlicht fühlt. Wir treffen uns bei der Arbeit und hängen ab, wann immer wir können. Er war immer schüchtern, er berührt mich, meine Schulter, ich berühre ihn und er zieht sich zurück. Seine Freunde machen ihm ein Kompliment und lachen manchmal, wenn wir zusammen sind. Ich hörte sie auch zu ihm sagen, dass sie ihn wegen mir respektieren. Das zweite Mal, wenn wir im Einkaufszentrum rumhängen, sagt er mir, dass er am 3. November 2014 um 11:02 Uhr abreisen muss. Penny Da ist dieser Typ, den ich habe für die längste Zeit verknallt in. Wir waren in der High School nah dran, er war mein Klassenkamerad und ein sehr guter Freund. Nachdem wir die High School abgeschlossen hatten, nahm ich den ganzen Mut zusammen und sagte ihm, dass ich ihn mochte. Als der Gute, der er war, hat er mich nie ausgenutzt, er hat das nur gesagt, er sieht mich als Freund und er wollte so bleiben. Als wir das College betraten, hörte die Kommunikation zwischen uns auf. Aber ein Jahr vor meinem College-Abschluss haben wir angefangen, Nachrichten auf fb zu senden und uns erneut eine SMS zu schreiben (4 Jahre vergingen ohne Kommunikation). Wir haben über alle möglichen Dinge gesprochen, und uns sind nie die Dinge ausgegangen, über die wir reden konnten. Danach beschäftigten er und ich mich mit meiner Diplomarbeit und anderen akademischen Dingen. Wir gehen zu verschiedenen, entfernten Universitäten. Hier ist der Haken. Wir haben beschlossen, uns nach dem Abschluss zu sehen. er schreibt selten Texte, und wenn doch, wird das Gespräch wieder aufgenommen, von normalen Dingen, über die man zwischen Freunden sprechen kann, bis zu dampfenden Anfragen und Vorschlägen. Also, alles ist festgelegt, dann besuchte er mich eines Tages in meiner Wohnung (es war geplant, er fragte mich vor ungefähr einem Monat). Wir unterhielten uns 3 Stunden lang. Es war so toll, mit einem guten Kumpel von der High School zusammen zu sein. und dann fingen wir an, uns zu küssen und herumzuspielen, aber nichts „Leckeres“ passierte aus Angst, dass meine Mitbewohner uns fangen könnten. Wir waren uns einig, am nächsten Tag auszugehen und die Tat woanders zu tun. Er war immer so gesprächig und offen für mich, dass wir uns über Dinge stritten und debattierten. Aber als wir das erste Mal ins Bett gingen, war er eine ganz andere Person. Das ist also die Geschichte. Mein Problem liegt darin, dass er sagte, er sei nicht bereit für eine Beziehung und wollte nur etwas Lässiges und Leichtes mit mir anfangen, und ich stimmte zu und dachte, ich könnte damit klar kommen, jetzt fühle ich mich verloren, er ist nicht der Typ, der das ist Texte den ganzen Tag. und nachdem wir einmal Sex hatten, schrieb er mir nie eine SMS, 2 Tage vergingen seit diesem Tag. und ich mache mir Sorgen. soll ich noch auf ihn warten 4. Juli 2014, 11:02 Uhr lynn Ich habe vor vier Monaten einen Mann online getroffen und wir haben uns nicht getroffen. Er ruft mich jeden Tag an und sagt, er will mein Herz und meine Seele und dass er sich in mich verliebt hat. Jedes Mal, wenn wir Vorkehrungen treffen, um etwas zu treffen, kommt etwas auf. Kinder, Reisen usw. Bin ich ein Dummkopf, geduldig zu sein? Hilfe. 19. Mai 2014, 21:05 Uhr fatima Vor ungefähr 2 Monaten habe ich einen Mann auf einer Dating-Site getroffen. Wir fingen an zu schreiben und die Dinge schienen in Ordnung zu sein. Ich muss zugeben, dass das Gespräch nicht so interessant war, aber ich hatte das Gefühl, dass wir uns gerade kennenlernen. Ich fragte ihn, wo die Dinge damit liefen und er sagte, er fühle es nicht. Also sagte ich ihm, dass ich einfach weitermachen werde, denn wenn er es jetzt nicht 'fühlt', wie kann er es dann später tun? Vielleicht habe ich mich geirrt, aber er hat mir gesagt, dass ich überreagiere. Trotzdem habe ich seine Nummer gelöscht und bin weitergegangen. letzte Woche bekam ich einen Text von einer seltsamen Nummer, der besagte, dass er es noch einmal versuchen wollte und das Gefühl hatte, dass wir einen schlechten Start hatten. es war wieder dieser Typ. Ich dachte, ok ... ich werde es noch einmal versuchen. Wir schrieben ununterbrochen eine SMS von Sonne zu Sonne. es fühlte sich wirklich gut an. Unsere Gespräche wurden lustiger und sehr flirtend. Er arbeitet als EMT, also war sein Zeitplan hart und ich arbeite am Flughafen, also war mein Zeitplan auch verrückt. Es war ein Sonntagabend und ich traf ihn, als er bei einer Tante war. Wir saßen in seinem Auto und ich war so nervös. Er fragte mich immer wieder, warum ich eine Meile pro Minute rede und warum ich so verängstigt bin. Ich sagte ihm, ich sei nie mit jemandem zusammen gewesen und ich war nervös. Er sagte: 'Aber Sie scheinen so zuversichtlich in Ihre Texte.' er sagte mir immer wieder, ich solle mich entspannen. Er sagte: 'Dein Gesichtsausdruck schreit nur - dieses Arschloch will etwas Schlechtes über mich sagen.' Er sagte mir, ich sei süß und müsse mich entspannen. wir starrten uns nur an. wir lächelten ... und dann tat er es. er küsste mich. und es fühlte sich wirklich gut an (es war auch mein erster Kuss). dann, nachdem er sich zurückgezogen hatte, sagte er, dass Sie immer noch ängstlich aussehen. Ich sagte ihm, ich habe es genossen. Ich hielt ihn den Rest der Zeit fest und sagte ihm, dass ich mich wohler fühle. er musste gehen, also setzte er mich ab. In dieser Nacht schrieb er mir, ich sei ein Verrückter. Er scherzte herum, aber am nächsten Tag gab er mir nur ein Wort Antworten. Also bemerkte ich nicht, dass ich auf ihn losging und sagte, er sei weit weg. Er sagte, es fiel ihm schwer, mich zu mögen, weil ich „Angst“ hatte, und ich sagte ihm, er hätte es mir bequemer machen sollen. Er schrieb mir, ich solle ihn in Ruhe lassen. Ich tat. Am nächsten Morgen schrieb ich ihm, dass es mir leid tut, nervös zu sein und dass ich neu anfangen wollte. Er sagte, ich möchte nur, dass du deine Handlungen änderst. vor allem, weil ich in meiner SMS sicherer war als persönlich. Ich fragte ihn, ob es mir möglich sei, ihn wiederzusehen, und er sagte - ja. Das war's. das hat er gestern gesagt. Heute ist es 18 Uhr und ich habe noch nichts von ihm oder so zu hören. was soll ich machen? Was ist passiert? ist er uninteressiert? Wird er mir eine SMS schreiben? 15. Mai 2013, 21:03 Uhr katy urgh, dieser Typ klingt schrecklich. Sprich nie wieder mit ihm. 24. Juni 2014, 8:55 Uhr delilah Ich habe eine Frage, die meinem Problem ähnelt, aber nicht dieselbe ist. Ich spreche jetzt seit ein paar Monaten mit diesem Typen. Wir begannen als Freunde, die Geschäfte machten. Ich machte die Grafikdesigns für sein Geschäft. Ich fing an, ihn ein bisschen mehr zu mögen als nur Freunde oder Geschäft zu sein, und ich kann sagen, dass er auch an seiner Körpersprache genauso denken könnte. Ich lud ihn ein, mit mir zu einer Wohltätigkeitsveranstaltung zu kommen, aber er sagte, dass er es nicht schaffen würde. Er schrieb mir eine SMS, als der Abend mich fragte, wie es lief, als ob es ihn wirklich kümmerte. Ein paar Wochen später erzählte er mir, dass der Grund, warum er nicht gehen konnte, darin bestand, dass er jemanden sah, aber diese Beziehung nun vorbei war. Dies war im Dezember 2012, wir redeten weiter, wir haben noch mehr Geschäfte gemacht und er schreibt mir die ganze Zeit über persönliche Dinge, nicht geschäftliche. Als der Valentinstag 2013 kam, hoffte ich, er würde mich fragen, aber er tat es nie. An dem Tag, an dem er mir eine SMS schrieb, erzählte er mir, wie schrecklich er war und dass er am nächsten Tag mit mir abhängen wollte. Ich bin kein Dummkopf, also habe ich ihn natürlich nicht auf seine Einladung aufgenommen. Wir schreiben immer noch jeden Tag eine SMS, die er mich seitdem gefragt hat, aber ich konnte das Datum wirklich nicht festlegen. Ich bin mir nicht sicher, ob ich weiter hoffen soll, dass dieser Typ mich wirklich mag, da wir viel schreiben, oder ob ich einfach aufgeben und weitermachen sollte. Ich würde gerne Ihren Rat hören, danke. 26. März 2013, 8:32 Uhr gina Ich habe diesen Kollegen, mit dem ich befreundet bin, seit wir zusammenarbeiten. Erst vor kurzem begann sich unsere Beziehung zu ändern. Es war ein subtiles Flirten zuerst in den Pausen, dann eine vollständige Bestätigung dessen, was wir taten. es ging eine Weile so weiter, nur während der Arbeit, da wir nie Telefonnummern ausgetauscht haben. Einen Tag nach der Arbeit gingen ich und einige Mitarbeiter essen. Auf dem Parkplatz stoße ich am Ende auf den besagten Freund. Ich konnte überzeugen, mitzukommen. Er war cool damit, solange er meine Fahrt sein konnte. Auf dem Weg zum Essen fragte er während der Autofahrt, ob wir alleine zusammen rumhängen könnten. Ich stimmte zu. Später in dieser Nacht haben wir uns irgendwie zusammengetan und nur ausgegeben. Nach den Stationen haben wir es im Moment auf Hitze gebracht und so getan, als wäre nichts passiert. Ein paar Tage später bei der Arbeit brauchte ich eine Heimfahrt, und er bot an. Wir haben wieder rumgemacht, diesmal weiter. Hier ist die Sache, ja, ich bin ein Erwachsener (ein junger, aber dennoch ein Erwachsener), aber ich hatte noch nie Sex. nicht weil ich daran glaube, mich selbst zu retten, sondern weil ich nie genug von jemandem angezogen wurde, um Sex haben zu wollen. Er wusste, dass ich eine Jungfrau war. Er hörte auf, was wir taten, und sagte, dass er lieber 'darauf warten möchte, dass ein großartiger Kerl, der mich so mag, mein erster ist'. Wir beendeten diese Nacht mit einer aliasward Umarmung und dem Versprechen, immer noch Freunde zu sein. Aus den Gründen, aus denen er sagte, er wolle aufhören, ist es nicht so, dass ich sauer auf ihn sein könnte. Von da an unterhielten wir uns bei der Arbeit auch so, als wäre nichts zwischen uns passiert. Am Ende sahen wir uns auf einer Party. Er war schon ein bisschen beschwipst, als ich dort ankam. Er war zurück zu seinem flirtenden, empfindlichen Selbst. Offensichtlich wusste ich, dass es der Alkohol war. Wir haben uns beide zusammen betrunken und über 'die Nacht' gesprochen. Er sagte im Grunde, er wollte mich in dieser Nacht nicht ausnutzen, er kümmert sich um mich. Ich sage ihm im Grunde, mach dir keine Sorgen, es ist okay. Irgendwann in der Nacht beginnen wir uns zu küssen, vor unseren gemeinsamen Freunden, die nichts über die Situation wussten. Er schaut auf, sieht einen wirklich guten Freund von mir (schwul) und sagt 'Ja, wir haben irgendwie rumgemacht.' Freund: 'Ich weiß.' ihn: 'Weißt du?' ich: 'er weiß.' ihn: 'er weiß?' Ich: 'Ja, er weiß.' we kiss again, he then in his drunken stupor, starts telling my friend: “i really find her attractive.” looks at me. “i really find you attractive” by this point i start to feel sick so i sit down. i hear him talking to my friend about the situation. he basically said he was trying to respect women more, and he wanted to respect me. in one if my least proudest monents, i publicly got suck. this point is aploy blur, but i remember him blaming himself, apologizing, because he had me drink so much… anyway, i haven’t gotten the chance to see him yet. i don’t even know why i’m writing this, or what question i really want answered. i feel like all it is for him is lust, and he really is a good enough guy, not to want to hurt me. on the other hand, i have my few friends who know the whole situation, saying that he really does like me, but the whole virgin thing scares me. truth be told, i would be okay with just a fling. i have this chemistry with him i haven’t had with anyone i’ve ever dated, and it’s something i’d like to explore. just because he would be my “first” that doesn’t mean i’m going to fall in love with him. i would rather explore my sexuality without too many emotional attachments, so when i do find mr. right, i’ll know what i want. i would be lying if i said i didn’t like him a little bit, but i also know a relationship wouldn’t go anywhere. that’s what i’m telling myself at least. anyway, i guess i’m writing this because i want someones opinion on whats going on in his head. am i more then likely rightto in thinking, this is just lust for him, but he’s trying to be a good guy and not take advantage? or are my friends right, that he does like me, but he’s intimidated? or is it just lust, and he’s intimidated? i just want someones objective standpoint, to help me wrap my whole, naive head around the situation please. november 20, 2012, 4:13 am katy sounds like its a very confusing situation and he obviously likes you and is attracted to you etc. once again it’s setting yourself back from how he feels and focussing on how you feel. sex is a funny old thing, i’m nearly 30 and even i get caught in the net of the ‘sex haze’ as carrie bradshaw aptly put it. it’s not that i don’t think women can’t have one night stands and not get invested but in my experience if there is a little bit of history, if you like the guy and you already kinda know its not going to end in marriage, sleeping with him is going to end in eventual heartache. after many years of experience and thinking i knew better i recently got involved with a guy who was a friend and was moving away. i was relatively objective and open minded about the whole situation, dare i say positively chilled out. that was until i slept with him. suddenly against all my better judgement i started reading into everything, fantasising about us living happily ever after. we didn’t of course and we were never meant to, but i ended up getting a bit hurt in the process, kicking myself for knowing better. that said, life is a series of experiences. sometimes we get hurt, sometimes we have multiple orgasms. those feel nice. in the end, go with what feels right at the time but set your expectations accordingly. you might get hurt, but hey we all do. so have fun, be safe and if it all goes wrong there is always sex and the city and a giant tub of ice cream. such a cliche! december 3, 2012, 7:08 pm whatever so, i have this close guyfriend who on occasion, when we drink too much together, we hook up. sometimes its intimate, sometimes, its just us fooling around. typical foolish story. as friends, we are very close. supportive of one another when the other needs it, available when the other needs it. he says he doesn’t have this relationship with anyone else. the story typically goes, we won’t fool around for a bit, then we hang out a little too much and then one thing leads to another and…we wake up in bed together the next day. there is one major fact i have left out, he is close friends with my long-term ex-boyfriend. every time we both say we aren’t going to fool around again, he cites how guilty he feels. i used to feel quite guilty in fact, but i stopped speaking to my ex, and realized that if i really truly felt guilty, i wouldn’t keep putting myself in the same situation. until very recently, he hadn’t even ever admitted that it had ever happened to another person; he actually told his therapist. he had told people that he had slept with a friend’s ex, but never said our names together. in fact, on one occasion; he could not perform, sexually due to the guilt. so while, i do see when he is coming from with the guilt factor, and this secret that has been gnawing at him, i also feel like, he is sort of lying either to himself or me; mostly likely a bit of both with the whole guilt situation. then this friend moved away. he had been talking about wanting a change for months and then took the plunge. we all recently out of college and this transient lifestyle doesn’t seem too outlandish. before he left; we hook up, say good bye. a few months ago, after visiting him i told him that i felt more and i couldn’t pretend i didn’t anymore, and he said that there could be nothing between us like that and that he really needed me to be just his friend. he played the guilt card again, he also wasn’t planning to return home. so after having a little disappointed cry, i said ok, and proceeded to go out and start dating a new guy. i am not going to lie, while my feelings for this new guy are true and growing, i do from time to time think about this friend, in a romantic/sexual way. things with the new guy aren’t perfect, but he is sweet and generous and a great guy. then the weekend the old friend returns, i follow the same pattern and bamb, we fool around. only this time, its not ok, on my end. i messed up, big time. the next day the friend and i talk things through and i said this cannot happen, otherwise, i will be unable to remain friends with him. Zeitraum. but we get to talking about how we keep putting ourselves in the same situation, acting surprised when we then follow the same pattern. he says we just have a great time together. so my question is this, why doesn’t he like me enough to find out more? to explore what could be? august 22, 2012, 1:51 pm z i had alot bad exp in the past finally i made the choice to go back to date i sign in online dating which i found a guy we started chatting after few emails we exchange number and we starting testing and talking over the phone it was really nice since it seen be both knew what we wanted i was really looking forward to get to know him more and he told me he wanted the same thing he also express him self by telling me he like the way i was that he had not connected with anybody for a long time therefore i was really happy the only thing was missing is meet since he is 4 to 5 hrs away. we both have seen each other pics he seen really into me everything was fine until few weeks ago he stop calling and testing so i give him some time so i text him just to see how is doing which he did he explain he was busy at work so i give him another week i was getting a little confused and scare that this was going to end up where he just lost interest so last week i send him a message asking if he still was into me to please let me know since i dont wanted to waste time with the wrong person, he did replay saying he would like to meet and he understood the way i was feeling but some reason that was not enough for me so i ask him if he would stop been distance and cold. few hours later after he told me about meeting he explain he had alot going on between work and his kids that is not a good time for a relationship that we could stay as friend if that is okay with me of course i said yes is not like i have choice…. at that time i got so angry and confused the next day i knew had done something wrong should just got with the flow but know is to late to go back so what im trying to see if i still have a chance is hard to explain the connection a had with him, at this moment he is not calling or testing if i testing he respond but he dont try to keep the conversation so i made the decision to stand back before i keep making more mistake can anybody tell me what to do, do you think i still have chance with him to be more then just friend? june 16, 2012, 6:26 am katy no, unfortunately, or probably fortunately he doesn’t want to be more than friends for now. internet dating over long distance is annoying because it can be quite intense receiving e-mails and nice texts and phone calls and you can often feel as though you know someone quite well. i’ve been through the same thing where i’ve had a really nice texting/ e-mailing relationship with someone across a distance. here’s the thing though, for this to turn into anything real you guys have to hang out in person and unfortunately he’s told you that he just wants to cool it off and be friends. you can look at this in a good way or a bad way. the way you should look at it is that you got back out there and made the brave step to meet people again. you met someone that you clicked with and this was great. don’t let the fact that it didn’t work out discourage you. you have learnt something from this, perhaps you know what you want a little more, perhaps it’s the universe showing you that you will connect with guys again. it’s ok to feel disappointed, just accept that it wasn’t quite right and move on. don’t bother texting him and initiating chats with him if you want more than he does, it will just make you more disappointed in the long run. put it down as a nice experience and move on, there will be many other lovely guys who you will connect with who will jump at the chance to be with you. instead of texting him, make a list of all the lovely things you want to do in your life as a solo girl, think about everything you want to achieve and what you want from the future. only when you are living the life that you cherish will you meet someone that will be worth it. Viel Glück! june 17, 2012, 11:25 am fern i have been chatting to a guy on line for about a week he says he likes me and i lke him convertion seem to be short and sweet and not much to them every time him questions ask he dose not seem to answer can anyone help march 20, 2012, 12:48 pm tasy hi there, cld anyone help me pls? i met a guy through online dating. he rang everyday for few minutes before we met up die to his work commitment. had great time met up but only 1-2 hrs. he to me that he wi be busy in next six months n his father is ill. than he flew back home interstate. at first, he rang twice and i tried to call too. texting each other but he didn’t respond most of it at all time. everytime he responded, either “xxx” or dad is sick. hugs, xxx, not good day or stress with dad condition. he is doctor too. very short and simple. he won tell me he love my msg and it cheers him up. when i mentioned that just keep in touch and see u when u are back, he texted me hoping i would not loose my patience than he rang once. i told him i wi be still around. than back to i texted heaps , sometimes no news at all, sometimes only 1 or 2 replied. he told me 2 wks ago he wi be back but dint happen. last friday, he said he will be back in few days but not signs. than he texted me saying would like to fly back to see me n ask which day suits me. till now, no news and signs. was soll ich machen? should i open up and ask what he wants exactly? he said to me that he misses me heaps and look forward seeing me. should i fly to see him instead? we only met once. and been on texts for 2 months now . hoe someone can help please? thanks heaps may 31, 2012, 11:16 am katy it sounds like he’s in a bit of a bad situation in his life at the moment and there’s no real need you getting too caught up in it all. i was in a similar situation years ago when i was dating a guy who’s mum was very ill. eventually, although we got on really well, he couldn’t maintain a relationship because there were so many ups and downs at home. my advice would be to still be there for him as a friend if he asks for it but lower your expectations for the future. he’s probably not going to be your boyfriend or great love right now, it’s just not the right time but that’s ok. sometimes we meet the right people at the wrong time. just take it as a nice experience to meet someone that you got along with and move on. if it’s right and you guys are meant to be together then forces will intervene in the future to make it happen when he’s in a better place. for now, move on, start looking around at other guys again and just be supportive and polite if he contacts you. Viel Glück! may 31, 2012, 11:45 am tasy thanks heaps katy. i actually mailed him after and kinda hinted that i don’t want to keep it going but happy to stay as friend. he didn’t respond to my email but texting saying he love all the messages i sent and it makes him feel close to me although we r 720k apart + lots of xox in once a day text. still in touch with him but keeping messages less intimate but more to friendship. today, he rang out of sudden (last spoken to him was early may). as usual, just wanting to say hi while his dad is better. usual less than 5 minutes call. but this time he got his dad to say hi to me too. i wasn’t prepared for it and not really sure what was going on there. oh ya, he called sweetie and my name by short (texts mostly). could it be i am reading into it too much or he is just appreciate my patience? june 3, 2012, 9:23 am katy i think it’s a tough situation, he obviously appreciates you being there for him and when he has a second to think he contacts you which is lovely. again, i do think that it’s a complicated situation for you to get wrapped up in because it’s so uncertain. for him it’s ok because he calls you when he needs to and gets your support but what are you really getting out of this? his lovely phone calls confuse you and then his silences hurt you. as hard as it is i’d say let go for now, he knows where you are, he has your number, he may be the right person in the future. for now it just seems like it’s stressful for you and you are the person that you should be thinking about. protect yourself and trust that if it’s meant to then things will work out in the future. june 17, 2012, 11:31 am nicole ok i know this guy from work and he gave me his # and we only text eachother for one week we never talk on the phone.he asked me out for a movie but i told him” i dont wanna go out with u bc i think u r kind of a player and ive heard u have all the girls number. ” he was mad at me and said we dont need to talk anymore but i really like him what can i do to make him ask me out again its been three day since he stops text me.i never text him bc i dont wanna b needy will he talk to me again march 15, 2012, 3:56 pm truthbtold you jumped to a conclusion about him before ever giving him a chance. you ttok what other said about him and made up your mind. the guy figured if you already have a negative point of view about him it’s best he moves on. you might have a shot if you maybe like this; hey! i didn’t mean to judge you before i got to know you. i should have not taken advice from others. if you would like to give me another chance i would like to meet you at the movies. march 15, 2012, 5:38 pm marymarymary i hope someone can help me with this. i met a guy on an online dating website. we wrote back and forth for a bit and then decided to meet. we had coffee, talked a lot, had great time. he asked to see me again, went to dinner the following week, talked a lot, had a great time. went out a third time the week after that to see a movie. hung out for 3hrs after the movie talking, laughing. we had planned for a 4th date the week after that but he canceled. he never made a move on me. his texting/emailing had decreased quite a lot since the first few weeks. he never rescheduled the date b/c he has out of town guests (which i have verified to be true). i know it is the beginning stages but i have no idea if he likes me/wants to date me. i’m afraid he may not be interested anymore but doesn’t have the b*lls to say so. any advise? march 11, 2012, 5:48 pm katy i’d say move on, he probably wanted to see if there was a romantic spark between you two because you guys obviously get on well but sounds like there’s no spark his end. that’s fine, leave him to it, don’t bother contacting him. if he contacts you, be polite but leave it there. wait for a guy who is dying to have romance with you from the first time he meets you! march 11, 2012, 6:01 pm elizabeth i recently started talking to a guy again that i have known for years. he used to really like me but i wasn’t that into him at the time and then i did like him years later and he wasn’t into me. recently, we started talking all the time … but the weird thing it’s usually online, we video skype rather than hang out. last night, we started talking about home movies from when we were younger and he said he wanted to see mine. we spent hours gushing over each others home movies. a lot of times things get pretty flirty too. a lot of our friends have noticed what’s going on. i am afraid to say anything too obvious though because of how hurt i felt before. march 5, 2012, 9:31 pm rashell so i’m talking to a guy…been talking to him since october. we’vebeen on dates and got to know each other very well. i never slept with him.i told him about what i have which is hsv. so he says lets be friends. a couple of weeks later, he starts back sending me text messages asking about it and sayig kets be fwb, but used it as a example. so last wekend he starts back sending me text messages. he tells me that he is confused about it but i explained it to him very well. i told him i was confused because of the mixed signals. however, he keeps coming back starting conversations with me. so what shoukd i do. should i give him a chance to sink in. it’s confusing because of the mixed signals he’s giving me help! february 28, 2012, 8:16 pm katy too complicated, too confusing. next! do you want to spend the next few months deciphering mixed signals when you have much better things to do? men who are really interested in girls do not suggest having just a casual thing. you deserve way more than that so wait for someone who appreciates you for you (medical issue or no medical issue), leaves you with no doubt about how he feels about you and has the upmost respect for you. when it’s right it’s really that simple, so move on and enjoy! march 11, 2012, 6:05 pm xx31 here is my situation i met this guy in end of jan 2012, he is 2hrs and 30 min far from me. through the dating site we exchanged numbers and started taking on phone for hours. he called me every day once or twice if i didn’t answer he left me a voicemail. (note we had not meet in person yet)but l like to talking with him on the phone, then we decided to meet feb. 2nd we met for lunch and then watched a movie. he started kissing me and allowed him to because i really like him. he he said he likes me to( he give me compliments like he likes my dimple, my smile, my eyes, he like the way i kiss etc) we kissed in the move theater all time we didn’t watch the movie we just kissed. lol!! after the movie we walked out and he asked me if i wanna have some coffee, so we had coffee and we talked. after he called me and said he really likes me, we text sometime or call and talk on the phone. we decided to meet again and he give me a gift for valentines day. note: this time he wanedt me to meet him in the hotel, in the other city which located half way between him and me. he said he meet some clients there so i said yes. we ended up having sex but we both enjoy it. my point is both of the times we met were on weekdays not on the weekend. both of the times we scheduled to meet on the weekend but he changed it to meet me weekdays.the day we met the second time after having sex we went to dinner and we both headed home. on the way back i text him and said i really had great time and i like him. he replied and said, me to. the next day he called and i didn’t answer. he left me a voicemail and said he missed me and he send me kisses.he still calls me and if don’t answer he leave me a massage and i call him sometimes. my concern is when i call or text him sometimes he never answers or never replays back very soon. i mean i like this guy very much and i want a long relationship with him. how can i find out if he thinks the same way or if he really like me? wwat should i do? a couple day ago i asked him to have lunch together because i wanted to see him ans see if he is okay. i said that i will drive there to meet him and i want to take him out from lunch. he replied : u want to i said : yes. then he said ; i am to far away from you i said :” its okay. he said :i don’t want to put you through that trouble then i said: omg its okay i wanna see you then no ! after 32 min he replied ” baby give to me”..any advice, any thing i need to know, i really like this guy. please help february 28, 2012, 12:33 am katy i can see your dilemma, he was in to you at the beginning, phoning lots and making plans with you. unfortunately he’s just not that into you. it’s probably a combination of the distance and the fact that he sounds like he’s a noncommittal kind of guy. it’s got nothing to do with you. making plans then cancelling them and never wanting to spend long portions of time with you is not the start of a lovely long relationship. he gets to see you when he wants to and live his life when he has other things going on. so really if you look at it from his perspective he’s in the perfect situation. but you however, are not, because you want something deeper than that. my advice is move on, hold out for a guy who would cancel plans to see you, who would drive for hours on end just to spend time with you, who would make it clear and obvious that he’s crazy about you and wants all the same things that you want. you deserve to have all of those things and while you are wasting time waiting for this guy to come to his senses you aren’t going to meet that great person. so live your life, have loads of fun, feel great about yourself and get rid of anybody who isn’t treating you with the respect you deserve. february 28, 2012, 4:11 am xx31 thanks!! kathy well she still calls me text me if i don’t answer he leaves me massage but coz we far. we don’t make plan or he always at work busy, sometime he call before he go to sleep and sometime , if he wake up middle of night. i realy like him also i ask him ! if he involve in any other relation he said no its nothing like that he is busy. but sometime when he call and leave me voice mail he will call back. sometime he do call back sometime not. if i return his call never answer ? i kind don’t get it what his going on february 28, 2012, 10:24 am awsum chick i met a guy from cairo, ga so i thought but turns out he is from atlanta, ga who was the same way. turned out he was married so be careful. those type of men only want one thing and commitment is not what it is. i could not tell he was married he answered everytime i called or texted he called every morning and night all through the day he owns his own business. he would travel 3hours just to ride by my house or just pop up to surprise me out of the blue. we spent alot of time together but he never spent the night he would come up with excuses to leave @ least by 3am everytime. that part didn’t sit well with me and triggered me to start checking on him. i met his family and all we dated for a year +. when i found out he told me he would leave her if i would just talk to him but if he would do that to someone who he made vows with what would he do to me so i walked away and it has not been easy cause i love him and he keeps riding by my house and keep getting my number from friends talking about he is sorry and he misses me but i am a queen and i deserve to be treated like one so we are a done deal. come to find out how he got away with it is i didn’t check him out thoroughly enough and his wife works 12 hours a day with hardly any time off and when she is she is so tired he has a lot of spare time. june 23, 2012, 1:03 am kathleen i was with this guy for the 3rd and 4th of july. we have known eachother since we were 9 but decided to hang out a lot more now that we are older. we really liked eachother and i really liked him. everthing was going great and we watched fireworks together and everything. the next day i had to go home because i lived in ri and he live in ct and i was going on a trip to greece for 10 days. normally, i am very shy when it comes to things like this and i february 14, 2012, 12:25 pm glittergirl i hope someone tell me what they think about this situation.. there is this guy i’ve been talking to at work and just lately he’s been paying me more attention than usual. we both have different religions, he asked me if i would ever consider getting with someone from a different religion. i explained that whilst theres nothing wrong with that, it depends on your family situation and if whether they would be accepting of it especially if decide to go long term with that person. he then asked would i consider being with someone who had come from a different relgious background even though the guy would be willing to convert to my relegion! i replied with something like thats complicated! anyway what i want to know is, was he just testing me to hear what i would say and was he hinting to me that he was interested even though he didn’t ask me indirectly? i find it abit odd how all of a sudden he wanted to know what kind of guy i would get with. we both have good conversations and there is a physical attraction between us although we have never done anything about it! february 2, 2012, 6:23 am miranda okay so this is about my bestfriend. i absolutely love him. but i dont know if he feels the same way. when i came to his house we were playing football and i told them if they hit me with a football i was going to tackle him. he ends up always throwing the ball towards me when i’m trying to talk to my friend. he said why aren’t you tackling me. he’s also a gamer so am i we traded gamer tags… all my friends thinks he likes me because they’ve known him longer he’s usually really mean and stuck up to other people. but i’ve never known him as mean or stuck up. they say he treats me differently. he’s really shy but i still think he thinks of me as a friend. we share everything like food. we make fun of each other we subconsciously match clothing. we have a lot in common. i don’t won’t to ask him out because i’m afraid i’ll lose him. recently i got super mad at him yelled,hit him. i’m usually sweet and petite. he calls me short all the time and calls girls hot right in front of me making me jealous. anyways i got mad at him, he followed me into my class room trying to say sorry. i told him i’m never talking to him again and were not friends anymore. after school he gave me apology letter he’s never done anything like that before and it was in cursive. he said please forgive me (i found out he didn’t do it) because i would hate to lose you and your like my bestfriend. and walked off. i feel terrible and happy he wasn’t mad back because usually guys get mad back but why didn’t he? it makes me think he likes me im so confused.!!!! please because i love this guy to pieces.also his face was red and he looked like he was about to cry when i yelled at him. i would never yell at him ever unless i was serious. i was. i feel terrible and happy at the same time. january 21, 2012, 9:21 am appleblossom i was best friends with someone i’ve known forever. we spent a wonderful weekend together where things went from friends to more and everything was great when we got back. then he started slowing down contact. the other day i told him how i felt. he said he couldn’t say what i wanted to hear and that he didn’t think for a second that he had given me the impression that we were anything more than friends. now he’s completely cut off contact with me and i’ve heard he’s dating someone. its killing me and i can’t stop crying. its ridiculous. i’m 38 and he’s gotten into my head like no one has before. help please! december 31, 2011, 5:01 pm 14 and need help okay.. so, i hung out with my friends brother one day this summer and we were kinda flirting with each other then that night he asked me out..i said yes. we went out for a month and he would always say he loved me then randomly one day he broke up with me and wouldn’t tell me why…. so all the sudden on christmas he chatted me on facebook and said merry christmas.. so we were talking and he said got to go ill text you later.. so that night we were texting eachother…then the next morning he txted me and said like hi wats up and shit like that then he asked me who i liked and i told him i like him (bc i never really stopped liking him but i didnt say that,only said i liked him) and he said he liked me to… so my friend texted him and told him to ask me out and he said k and she said are you going to and he said that he didnt know… so today my other friend said why did u guys even break up in the first place and he said long story and never told her why….how do i know if hes gonna ask me out or not..i really like him and really never stopped liking him december 28, 2011, 2:26 pm katy oh everybody, the sad truth is that usually he’s just not that into you. if he was into you he would call you, get really excited about seeing you, treat you with respect, make sure he gets commitment so that he doesn’t lose you to anybody else . men are actually really straightforward, if they like you they call you and ask you out and treat you nicely. if they don’t then they won’t. the most important thing is to work on your self esteem and what you are willing to put up with. for the people whose boyfriends never want to meet up or make ridicious excuses then they are probably seeing someone else. for the guys who make you feel guilty for wanting him to take you out to dinner, forget them! are you really going to marry someone who won’t take you out to dinner? are you going to be with someone that you can’t be yourself with or trust? think about this logically and think about the best couples you know, all of my friends who are in wonderful relationships are so so happy. the men they are with treat them with the upmost respect and have done since day 1. this is mainly because my friends expect no less than absolute respect. the butterflies that you get from a man not calling doesn’t last, it’s love, respect, honesty and commitment that matters. think about what attributes you really want in a man, what can he add to your already great life? if he’s not adding anything then don’t bother with him. a great relationship is one where both parties are completely happy and secure with themselves and being together is just a massive bonus. i’m not saying that relationships don’t take work but this is what sees you through the years. i’ve been in the situation of being mad about someone who doesn’t call me or doesn’t treat me well and thankfully ive moved on from that. i’ve met some amazing people and my life is full of wonderful respectful friends and family. so make your life amazing and you will attract someone amazing until then keep studying, make yourself happy and ditch anybody that makes you feel bad. december 9, 2011, 9:26 am cancuk this is amazing! really made me feel better about my situation and recent choice to “ditch” him. Danke! january 14, 2012, 6:13 pm 19andconfused okay i have a really big problem. there is this guy at work that is like 11 years older than me and i really like him but i feel like he is sending me mixed messages. first he says he wants to be friends and then he asks me to come to his apartment for a movie. i told him i didn’t feel comfortable with that so we went to the movie theatre nearby instead. we got there and he was all touchy feely and kissing me and then as soon as he drops me off at home it’s back to being friends again. now he’s flirting with me outside of work off and on via text and we talk every now and then on the phone. i can’t figure out if he actually wants a relationship or if he’s just playing with me. what the hell is up with that? he seems like a really nice guy but i don’t know what to do. a little help here, thanks. november 23, 2011, 7:52 pm bodacious urgently in need of advice. we had a buisness meeting with other people and the gentleman that showed up for the meeting decided when he was leaving he stopped by my desk and told me in front of my boss and two other girls, i reminded him of someone he went to school with and next time he came down he would show me a picture of the girl i looked like. needless to say i never seen it and he did mention she was a freind and they never dated or had a romatic rucous. we started talking becasue we had to work closely together but we developed feelings for each other and when we would see each other it was like it took out breaths away. we had this instant connection when we would look into each others eyes and could talk for hours. we had so many things in common that we both seemed to like and we began chatting via txt more indepth. getting to know each other a little better. we went for dinner together chatted on the phone worked closely together but never slept together even though we wanted to. we wanted to get to know each other better. short and condensed he told me he had feeling for me and that he felt he was in love with me and i felt the same way about him. we had spoke about sleeping together but agreed to wait a little longer. a conflict at work with another party insued and the account was lost on our end and we got into an arguement over it and i felt like he knew all along that they were moving the account and stealing my guys on top of it. i accused him of somethings only where work was concerned and knowing and not telinng me. we always had an agreement that our work life would be seperate from what we do as individuals. meaning we wouldnt let that come between us yet it did becasue i felt betrayed yet he said he never knew that they were taking the account and guys with them. anyhow i was really hurt and told him i didnt want to see or talk to him anymore and i greived every day for him for 2 months wishing he would txt me. on my birthday 2 months later he did and we appologized for hurting each other and began to talk again. problem i am having is, its not the same. he will txt me and i am curtious that i respond right away and then he takes hours sometimes a day to respond to me yet he was the one who txt me first. i dont understand. he asked me to go to a hockey game with him and i told him i would. when i asked what game he wanted to see he did tell me the two teams he wanted to watch and i asked him when they paly and he said he wasnt sure and that he was tired and needed to get some sleep. i was fine with that as it was late and two days later he brought the topic up again yet nothing was finalized. then on friday night we were having a really meaningful conversation and he told me that he never stopped thinking about me ever and how much he wants me and i told him i wanted the same thing and that i was here for him. he came back with …when all that stuff went down he felt like he had lost me and it hurt so bad. i appologized to him again for everything that had happened and told him that i never stopped thinking about him for one second when we didnt talk. he said he i am so confused right now. i have to go. i will talk to you later. i promise. i just need to clear my head. well it has been 3 days now and i am not sure if i should txt him or wait for him to txt me. i guess i am wondering if i am wasting my time. he is a taurus and rarely opens up about how he feels and now that he said he is confused i am left feeling that it is over. was he just trying to see how i felt and then disappear or does he have feeling for me. i just want to know what the right thing to do in this situation becasue i do love him but his happiness is more important to me then the way that i am feeling. yet i feel hurt that he hasnt spoken to me in days. what am i missing. november 14, 2011, 11:39 am pricilla this guy that i like(i think he likes me) text a lot(and he usually texts me first) but almost never talk in person. whenever we see each other we hardly talk, but he talks to everyone else. whenever i’m around him and try to make eye contact, he just dismisses that. i really want to talk to him but he makes it seem so awkward. i’m thinking about telling him not to text me anymore unless he starts talking to me face to face more. he’s really nice and sweet and talented and cute but i guess just really shy….i’m just totally confused! : november 6, 2011, 1:22 am fatima i hate it when guys make plans to see you for a secnd date and then totally forget about it!!!! i really don’t understand men period.. november 2, 2011, 10:32 pm ashley o.k. so, here is the problem. i’m a first year college student and i’m 18 years old. i have known this guy for three months after my arrival at college. i met this guy because he is my friends’s roommate. we start hitting things off. everything we have a movie night, we would end up cuddling with all our cloths on in either his bed or mine. we become very intimate and it is very clear that he likes me physically, because he tries to go for my butt and my waist all the time. i like him too, but i don’t know how he feels about me. when we are in public, he acts condescending, egotistical, and says that he “can read me like a book” and he knows that i have a “huge crush on him.” i am an aggressive person and every time we are in public, we argue. i hit him gently all the time because he pisses me off, sometimes i grab his wrist really hard or slap him really hard, but he seems to like it because he has this annoying smirk on his face or does not get angry when i do become violent with him. he told me through text, that he does not like me at all. however, when we are cuddling, things become really intense and he always wants it to take it to the next level and make it even more intense than it already is. he makes it very clear that he is physically attracted to me and i am physically attracted to him. but i have no idea if he is emotionally attracted to me. i do not want this “cuddling” to become something i will regret because i want a full, real relationship, not friends with benefits. he tells me that he enjoys talking to me and that i’m a cool person, but the next moment he is telling me how stupid i am and how insensitive i am. i don’t get him!!! what does he want? how does he feel about me? he always keeps himself aloof and never tells me outright how he feels. i am a straight forward person so i tell him exactly how i feel and why i get so mad at him. i tried confronting him about this, but my brain turns into mush and i can’t come up with a coherent sentence. something about being around him turns me into a moron. it’s soooo aggravating!!! what can i do? i really want to know if he is emotionally attracted to me; like if he likes my personality. i am emotionally and physically attracted to him so i want a full, real relationship, but i have no idea what he wants. he has already told me what to expect from him, but it’s always a puzzle. i just cannot figure him out and i think about him all the time which exhausts me to the breaking point. i don’t know what to do. help!!!!! october 29, 2011, 6:06 pm kim i met this guy on a internet site and we started talking on the phone. we have talked on the phone for 9 months. went for a lunch maybe 4 times in that period. never would take me out for dinner. always was busy or had some excuse that seemed unreasonable. i realize that he had his own business but also know that he didn’t work 24-7. so as time went by i got frustrated and upset trying to make time for us to get together but i always got shot down. we always talked about him and what was going on and he never would ask how things were with me. not being selfish i just thought we would have a two sided conversation. he would say that i would over react when i would get upset about trying to hook up with him. at the beginning i left things up to him but he never done anything with it. we never shared a glass of wine or even a romantic dinner. he would call if not everyday every other day and just talk. as of a month ago i told him i was tired of being a phone friend and that i needed to get on with my life and i couldn’t do it as long as he was calling. i also let him know that is was no longer on my facebook because i didn’t want to know what was going on with him. we have e-mailed and within a month he is seeing someone else. he said the timing was wrong between us. on his e-mail he put a asterick beside the word couples are going on this trip to me. why would he tell me that? i spent 9 months on this guy and i really don’t know what happened. when i would ask him questions he could not give me a yes or no answer. he would answer around the questions. did i do something wrong because i wanted to go out for dinner? october 26, 2011, 9:43 pm natalie why don’t you just ask him out? girls need to let guys know how they feel too. it isn’t a one way street… especially if you feel that it’s something that could last a long time. i dated this guy from russia for 2 months before his student visa was up and he had to go back. he asked me out first, then i asked him out. we had a blast and even though i won’t see him for another year, he still writes me that he misses me. we get to have these conversations because i let him know that i liked him by spending time with him. i just had to be with him and no one was going to make that happen but myself. take initiative. october 18, 2011, 3:10 pm amanda i met a guy in his late 40’s online dating site he is a otr trucker so i was leery. he kept talking about marriage and moving in after only four months of dating. i realized he guarded his phone a lot. i stopped talking to him in march because i felt he was a liar. i now see all he wanted was a place to drop his things off while he is on the road. he has noting but his truck. i found out he found another women that fell for his sob story. she is in for a ride of her life. i was told he owes an ex girlfriend a ton of money. never date a truck driver no matter how sweet he may seems at first. october 13, 2011, 4:56 pm ree i started dating someone through a social network, i have been seeing him for 6months now, my circumstances were very different at the begining health wise and i was restricted in lots of ways, now i am fit and healthy. his first impressions of me were not great i was a bit of a “rocket” his words not mine, but non the less i do have to agree with him. we seen each other a couple of times, him coming over to my area, then it died a death for a few months which i was okay with as i was not ready for any kind of relationship or committment. then he contacted me a couple of months later and we started dating officially, but this meant me going over to him instead of him coming to me, he seems to be driving everything and very keen on me! even introducing me to his family and friends. on my meeting his friends i had a few drinks and denounced him talking about all the things he did that annoyed me and him not going out of his way to visit me, meet my friends/family. i am a very quiet and subdued person and had bottled up a lot of my feelings, i find it hard to express myself, now he doesn’t know how to deal with my outburst and i am gutted about my behaviour, he still wants to see me – but as expected things are not the same between us and i just want to make it right again, i have apologised profusely, we have a holiday booked together soon, my reckoning is that he will dump me after this, i like this guy lots, but he has always told me he doesn’t want commitment, but that we are in a relationship – a very confused woman! looking for sound advice. september 6, 2011, 5:32 pm jeanelle stuart i friended this guy via social network (not mentioning cause im kinda paranoid lol), i thumbed up a couple of his photos and a day later he messaged me, thanking me and if i wanted to go out sometime. i agreed and a week later he came for me and drove us to this place (ended up going 3rd base) week later asked me again, again drove us to this place and we ended up having sex. yes it was fast for us but i didn’t really mind, i mean i liked the guy etc. we met up again that week and again 3rd base. might i add i usually texted him if he’s ok, which he replies with “r u busy?/wanna go out?” then one day i im’d him and he told me that “it’s better to stop going out with eachother for a while” i was like “why?” first he told me that i’m young and he feels bad (about time) then he told me cause he has alot on his mind (after i bitch-slapped him on im)..then he told me that “maybe i’ll be in the future” uh..wtf??…..so…..again week later i texted him “how r u?” he replied back “forget it, i have a lot on my mind and im going out with someone else” i was like wth is wrong with you txted him back with “i only asked you how r u, you didn’t have to tell me what you’re doing with someone else” 2 days later he txted me and he apologised for “scolding me” and that he thought i was trying to get him to go out with me again, i was like “i know what no means” and then he told me “im trying to settle down” big wtf?…….that’s where my confusion is…..does he want to or no? i mean why did he tell me that he has alot on his mind and at the same time telling me that he’s going out with someone else and that he’s trying to settle down? i don’t get him really. i don’t want to be his booty call (probably i was though =/) september 1, 2011, 6:08 pm maria ive been dating a guy for 4mnth now. it was all good at the first he was totally into it like i was. but after cple months he started pulling away and not saying or acting same way. now we still are together but i am a mess thinking he has cheated and done this and done that because of way he acts. he tells me he likes alone time. this last time he got verbally angry and told me to leave him alone or he would be alone everyday. the next day he calls me to come stay night before he goes back on the road. he is a truck driver. we had fun but i seen some texts in his phone saying he was going to dinner with some girl that night and asked his ex gf if she wanted to go. i know he is still friends with the ex. wether i like it or not. he said thats all it is. i asked him if he was seeing anyone next day and he said no. he doesnt cheat and he is not a hipocrit. he left out and i hardly heard from him. he txt only when i txt goodnight and my insecurity got me and i made a joke of him talking to his other girls. he sent a txt explaining he has no other girls, who he texts and that its no more of this again. he will end it right away. then he sent several more texts blowing up at me about us and the fact he prolly only cares just because. he sees it hard to love someone when he and his son doesnt even share love. tells me we have to talk and talk soon. to leave him alone until we talk so he can sleep. i did and i txt cple days later to see what is up with us. i dont want to continue feeling bad if he jus gonna leave. he will answer back but just with everyday talk. tell me have a good day at work or what he is doing. not one thing on if we still a couple or if he decided he didnt want me anymore. he can be a real good guy. i know i have or can be needy and over possesive. he has said before he felt smotherd yet i only see him 2-3 days a month because he a truck driver. my question is do i just go along with what he is doing. just simple conversation and nothing bout us? or do i call it quits? i care for him i just wanna know if im single or taken. thats all!!!!!!!!!!!! july 8, 2011, 1:58 pm kelly maria, don’t let him fool you. my friend met a truck driver hewas all about her yada..yada..he had another lady in the next town and one in another state. he played them all. the guy was flat broke looking for se and a place to crash now and then when he made it into town. don’t let him back into your life he’s playing mind games with you. be strong dump hi.. september 22, 2011, 5:23 pm ellenoa hi munequa, i think he is being selfish. he wants you to give him what he wants and disregards what you want. i say you try to cut off the time spending with him without telling him since he will out talk you everytime you tried talking to him. speak with your action. lots of love july 8, 2011, 3:53 am munequa i met this guy at work 2yrs ago. hes divorced,raising his 3daughters and has a job that requires constant missions. i know hes has his priorities straight when it comes to work and kids activites. what i cant figure out is if he really cares for me??? ok here it goes… weve started dating the end of january have been to the movies 3x, dinner 1 and spend time at his home cuz he does nap alot on the weekends. now i had mentioned to him that we can be friends, seeing that he has such a hectic schedule but he refused and said he didnt want to loose me. we are both reserved him more, he txts during the day and calls me once a day as hes heading home. he doesnt drink, smoke, or goes to clubs or bars. he doesnt socialize with co-workers because he doesnt want to give anyone reason to talk. he spends time at home, working out, wrking on his side job. he will take about 5 hours to call and always falls asleep. hes never asked me to be his girlfriend but the first time i decided to stop dating him he got really upset and said i broke his heart and he knew id leave him for someone else which was not the case. i told him that i did want to continue seeing him but that i didnt get the impression that he really cared. he got happy. he does make sure that i take vitamins & eat right and always says that as long as im his, he will make sure to take care of my body. i went to the movies and he got upset that i didnt invite him but i feel if he knew i was going then he sould have just gone, right? he doesnt want me talking or hanging out with guys. he did mention that he is a jealous person. he texts me that he misses me, that i make him feel good. we are great when it comes to intimacy. he cant stop touching me, or holding me when we are together. whe are at the movies and he will hold my waste and kiss me so sweetly. i just dont know if he really likes me or if hes in it for the sex? he avoids confrontation or rather not talk about anything that can turn into an argument. when i bring it up later, all he says its a new day and says forget abt it. i know he has trust issues cuz his wife cheated on him. he is so reserved but not when we are in bed. i dont know how to read him or what to think. i told him last week i just wanted to be friends and he doesnt want that. he asks if im seeing someone else or is afraid to loose me. he wants me to tell people im dating him and hes made comments that he likes me more than i think. i dont know what to make of this. i told him that i would stop seeing him if i didnt see a change in us. he told me that he doesnt want me being with guys or to lecture him about what bugs me. i just wish he could make the effort of spending more time with me and take the innitiative to ask me out more. i really like him but i cant figure him out. can anyone help? may 3, 2011, 3:46 pm nevver there’s this guy i have liked since we were teenagers. i am 30 now. he never seemed to pay me any attention, so we were never more than friends. more than a few years ago we started hanging out, and decided we wanted to see each other. circumstances caused us to seperate. we forgot about each other and moved on. i ran into him again a few weeks ago. i immediately felt the old attraction stir up. we exchanged numbers and began to conversate again. on one very emotional and revealing night, we both admitted that there is a real and unforfilled need between the two of us. when i asked him why he never pursued me like he wanted me, he said it is because i was always moving so fast and in other relationships. he told me i have always been independent, fine, and on top of my game. he even went on to say i am the kind of woman he would settle down with because he knows me, and he knows i’m about my business. he said the problem has always been he could never figure out why i dated the guys i did date, and leave guys like him out to dry. i told him i dated the guys i have chosen to date, because the guy i have always wanted did not want me. i made it clear that had he given me the time of day from the beginning, there probably would never have been anyone else. that’s how deep the attraction runs. i told him i always went for the other guy, because he always seemed so disinterested. it was all so bare. we both agreed we have always been intimidated by, but attracted to each other at the same time. he’s sexy. he’s also a no-nonsense kind of guy. he got his stuff together. so how can he possibly be intimidated by me? anyway, we also agreed we need to make this official and see where it leads. that was day 1. this is day 5. i have only talked to him twice. i am not desperate, but we are not strangers. we are not breaking the ice. it has already been established we have a lot to work on, and we both want to work together. so, where is he? why doesn’t he call? when i do talk to him, it’s as if he’s been holding his breath to hear my voice. but, he won’t pursue me. i want to hear his voice. he is aware of that. i am excited by him. why is he still so aloof? i’m not a braggart, but i have always been an attractive lady. i am a go-getter, and i’m not afraid of life. men wish they could have me for themselves. why is this one so hard to get? does he even really want me at all? or does he just tell me what he thinks i want to hear? if so, then why? april 21, 2011, 4:14 pm freyer i met this guy three days ago and i thought that we really hit it of. we texted for a couple of days taking turns in who started the conversation. but know i have to casually start every conversation and he isnt ing. today we are ment to meet up with some other friends and he seemed realy excited…am i being to needy and annoying?? april 20, 2011, 10:15 pm angel i was dating this guy long distance and never done this before but i fell in love. well i accused him of seeing someone else and he didnt talk to me for 2 days. now i asked him wuz up and he told,me he was so sirry and has had alit on his mind. and yeah he wants to be together byt has alot going on. was bedeutet das? march 24, 2011, 9:13 pm taylor okay so i have a question for you guys, i have been talking to this guy for a little over a week now, and he kept asking me to go over to his shop and hang out with him and his friends. we started talking about relationships and he told me that he likes girls who are willing to chill with him and his friends and he pretty much described me. i am currently living with my mom and dad while my place is being redone, so i have to ask my mother if i can go out and she finally said yes last night. so i went and chilled with him and his friends, it was a lot of fun, ithought that he liked me and everything, at the end of the night he held me for a little bit and we kissed i asked him about hanging out this friday at a new years deal he said yes then he said something about going on a date this weekend, which makes my heart skipped a beat, but its 230 pm and i still haven’t heard from him. he normally texted me all day while at work, i dont think he doesn’t like me but i have heard that he is a player and i just dont know if things will work out or not. i am hoping he is just busy at work and will text me as soon as he gets the chance to but he didn’t even send me a good morning text like he normally does. december 29, 2010, 4:40 pm abbi well i have been talking to this guy for 2 months now. we even have a class together. i don’t try to be needy but i try to get his attention. he says he likes me without me even asking n he knows i like him but what’s taking him so long to ask me out? i haven’t wasted all my time on him. i’ve made him jealous by making him think i have more options in guys (which i do, alot actually but they just aren’t the same) but he just isn’t realizing that i want him n not them. idk what to do? december 12, 2010, 4:51 pm brigette so, i went to see this new band play with a friend. her boyfriend plays in the band (drummer) and also in the band there was a hot bass player that i was interested in. me, my friend, and another girl danced in the front row all night while we watched them play. i never got to meet the bass player and never brought him up to my friend. the next time i went to see their band play with her again (a month later), my friend’s boyfriend (drummer) told my friend that she should introduce me to bass player because he “has been talking about the hot brunette girl for a month (me)”. we were introduced and we all went out after the band played. bass player got my number and waited 4 days to text. in that same time period of 4 days, i was talking to my friend (who’s dating drummer) and drummer asked her while i was on the phone with her “when were me and bass player were hangin out again”. the 5th day was my birthday, and he told me that they were playing that night and that i should come celebrate and watch the show. i told him that i had dinner plans with some friends, then we might stop by. we ended up going and bass player was happy to see me. he told me that he wanted to take me to dinner the next week. he never asked about it the next week but was texting me. i always would let him initiate the texts. the following weekend he picked me up to go out with him and some friends to see another band play. we had a lot of fun and danced together. he told me that he was sorry that he never brought me to dinner and wanted to reschedule (he brought it up). that happened on a sat. and he waited to text me until wednesday to see what i was up to. that following weekend was this past weekend and he went out of town for a football game (college). he texted me all weekend. he said that he wanted to reschedule our date. nothing has happened yet with that but he’s been texting me and telling me that he’s attracted to me. i saw my friend’s boyfriend (drum player) while i was with her this past weekend and he brought bass player up and said that bass player really likes me. the two of them are really good friends and grew up together and im pretty positive that he wouldn’t bring bass player up if he wasnt interested in me. what is the deal here? is he just trying to figure me out or what is going on? – confused october 27, 2010, 10:28 am eric charles yeah, isabella gave you some tough-love there, but she’s 100% right. august 17, 2010, 12:25 pm isabella katora- get a clue, dear! he is playing with your head !! some men like to have what i call a pantry full of backup jars to feed their ego’s and make them feel desirable. or just in case their current relationship falls apart and they need someone to run to. if you have never seen him in person it’s because 1. he can’t he has a gf/wife 2. he doesn’t want to. and as far as his fb status…lmao.. he was the one who changed it prob at her insistance. if his neices changed it for him, which i doubt, then how do they even know who this girl is unless he is dating her? if it wasn’t true then he would have changed it back to single, but he couldn’t..because that would have upset the gf. just to be clear here., you do not have a relationship with this guy. what you have is an online flirtation that will go nowhere. if you want to continue to be used to feed this jerks ego, the choice is yours. personally, i would fire his ass and delete him asap. find yourself a real man and don’t waste time on selfish little boys. if a man doesn’t treat you with kindness and repect, leave him in your rearview mirrow. sorry to be so blunt. august 17, 2010, 7:43 am katora hello, right now i am debating if i should try to make my relationship workout. i have never seen him in person before but we have seen each other through facebook. in the beggining he was making plans to see me, and we talked at all hours on the phone everyday. everytime we were close to seeing each other something happened. then a week ago he said he went over his cousin house so once that happened the calls and texts slowed down alot. now he catches an attitude or stands me up saying he has to work or he is tired. during all of this he still trys to say he do care about me and he dont want anyone else but me. a few days ago he says he didnt put a girl on his facebook page as his woman but it clearly says on facebook he is in a relationship with her. he said his nieces have his password and did that. what do i do??? april 14, 2010, 12:27 pm ana actually i too same the same similar problem but in my case he would ask me out but then cancel on me with all sorts of reasons.then finally he made it for one date.i really like this guy so i told him that i liked him. he said that he too likes me but is afraid of relationships and not confident about himself but he told me to continue talking to him. after 1 month, he has to me that if i talk to him or see him everyday i would feel more him and he asked to not. so i told him if that’s what he wants i wouldn’t talk to him anymore or chat with him anymore. he said ok. since i totally stopped communicating with him and moved on with my life but after 3 months like that, he comes back to me saying sorry and he wants things to be normal and that he missed me alot. so what does this mean?? please help me november 6, 2009, 12:54 am